Views on Mental Illness

@willworkforisekai From my most loyal uncle... "Well you see God made each of us a very unique individual, he has even said that he makes no duplicates( no two are just alike) So you see if you try to conform your self to be a different person to make someone like you then you are not really you at all. You have now become something that someone else wants you to be and you are not true anymore you are a counterfeit Neither can I become something that you want me to be no matter how much force is placed onme from without if I am not true to myself I cannot be what God has created me to be and I will be a disappointment to Him. This all means one thing we must live our lives to please God and no one else Never compromise who you are seek only to be what God wants you to be an individual live in each day to glorify God." EDIT: See also this scene from the newest Muppets film. Going against people of variety would be like going against even God's promise called the rainbow. https://www.instagram.com/p/C3k8r3YpgQc/?igsh=MTlleTZpY3pwYWMwbQ== "You only truly love God as much as you love the person you love the least." (e.g. Judas, Ramesses, Hitler, Trump, Satan, etc.). https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8bWJxHD/

@meisterman1985 That's beautiful man. I can agree to that. The you only love God as much as the person you love least hits home. So true. The promise of the rainbow and that in conjunction with people of variety was beautiful to. It's a shame we see variety as intolerable. Thanks for reminding me of the light. Your a swell guy. Though I can't fully embrace the light I'm to busy tracking the darkness in others because they don't trust the light they trust the darkness to tell them everything they need to know. I can't fully embrace what I want to embrace because people don't trust it so being the analytical person that I am I have to find out what do they trust and what is the crude reasons behind our downfall. I don't want to walk into the light alone. I know a better perspective exists one not tainted by darkness. But I let myself be tainted to find what light is tolerable. But Jesus is probably the only True way.

@willworkforisekai Using any label as an excuse for any "bad behavior" equal to narcissism (bad person having their way)? Dealing with intolerance is like eating foods you are allergic to? If happiness is the best revenge, then why do people consider childlike hobbies as "for kids and immature" and trust pedophiles over children and prefer people saying similar quotes to Trump's, "You know Autism is such a tremendous horror show!", and Obama's quote, "We remain a young nation. But in the word's own Scripture, 'The time has come to set aside childish things!'" PBS's Sesame Street is childlike. https://mediaproxy.tvtropes.org/width/1200/https://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/sesame_street_6.png MTV's Jackass is childish. https://cdn.mos.cms.futurecdn.net/VaBMKgZ6hRpzZMiFk6QBtR.jpg The Office and The Andy Griffith Show are what conformity stereotypically look like. https://i.imgur.com/9vPwbUs.jpeg https://i.imgur.com/B7mHlEP.jpeg The Big Bang Theory, The Addams Family and even my mother's father's sitcom Sanford And Son are what non-conformity or counter-cultures stereotypically look like. https://i.imgur.com/aD8tE1d.png https://i.imgur.com/zvrupWg.png https://i.imgur.com/k2aBTFa.jpeg

Making peace with being alone is a hard pill to swallow. My standards are too high when it comes to relationships and I’m almost out of time tbh. No nephews or nieces either to be the cool uncle to. Tbh life just feels empty for me today. I miss being cared about and texted goodmorning or planning dates out. Cooking them food or something too. If I lowered my standards and got with someone I didn’t really find attractive I would never be happy truly so wtf is wrong with me? I see guys settling all the time for women that would do anything for them. So why do I chase after those that are above my league? The toxic ones or ones that think they are better than everyone else. Idk what is up with me, because most guys would have taken the women who threw themselves at me the past month. Maybe too many fictional movies or anime’s have brainwashed me to believe my Queen is out there somewhere waking up in a field of flowers or something?? lol idkkk just tired of being lonely after years of it.

@solid_snake95 I'm sorry to respond to this...I know not everything is deserving of a response, and I also feel like there are certain things I shouldn't talk about due to the fact I've never dated or searched for love before romantically. But, I do want to say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having preferences or standards you want a partner to meet, and I've talked about this in a different thread before, but those preferences necessarily shouldn't be (especially if it's a physical kind) the end all be all to a relationship. This is not me shaming people for having physical preferences, everyone does – including me! I really like guys with long hair or just nice hair in general even if it's on the short side, I also do enjoy a height difference between us, but a guy having neither of those things aren't the thing that'll make me not want to be with him. I feel like this sounds like I'm trying to scold you, but I'm not. I'm saying it's very understandable if you want a partner to do certain things, or be physically healthy/capable to do things around the house or simply going out to have fun, but just from what I've seen from healthy couples that actually try together is ultimately this: sometimes your queen/king and lover in life is simply someone that completes/helps you in ways sometimes God only understands how. And it won't/doesn't matter ultimately how they physically appear before you. Who knows? Maybe your future woman will be someone who doesn't physically look the way you may want, but inwardly she has all the love you could ever need. Or, maybe because you started this wellness journey, you meet a woman who is also trying to change her body for the sake of health and confidence in herself, God likes to work in mysterious ways, and those very situations we thought we would be alone was actually preparation to help not just yourself, but others in the same place you once were. Again, maybe I got a little ahead of myself by assuming you meant attractive in a physical sense, you could absolutely mean their personality or something (cause I thought I saw you say somewhere you're demisexual?), but my point ultimately is: don't lose hope and keep looking forward to the future. Trust me...as someone who has struggled with finding confidence in myself, doubting myself heavily AND having self-worth/image issues, take these moments where it's nothing but you and God very seriously. Cause maybe there's still something that you need to figure out in yourself before you're fully prepared to receive something as special as a lover, even if that 'figuring out' is first learning how to properly treat yourself so that you can fully and wholeheartedly love your woman as you love yourself. I always ramble...but I hope you know that as long as you still have breath in your lungs, nothing is ever too late, not unless you keep your mindset in that small space, then that's what it will be. I pray that you find a woman who is humble in character and who God knows will be your rib/pillar and support/helper in this life, because you deserve a good woman. ❤️

@yaasshat so like just keep doing what I have been doing and stop looking kinda thing? Or passively be aware as I do my thing?

@solid_snake95 I could be wrong, but I think Ya-Ya is telling you that there's no use being anxious or worried about something that hasn't happened yet or that you don't have presently. You can't lose what you have not yet obtained, so why waste your precious time worrying about something that isn't even there. He's saying to keep looking around you at what already is and what you presently have, rather than looking too far ahead and being worried about possibilities that are just that alone, nothing set in stone.

Option B, my friend. Always leave the door unlocked, but be ok if it's not opened exactly when you want. Also, I second @wei_ying .

@yaasshat "Life is not Burger King. You can't have it your way!" - My last special ed teacher "Never let the old man in." - Morgan Freeman sharing Clint Eastwood's quote to Jimmy Fallon on the secret to living a long lifespan https://youtu.be/9fvETktnaRw?si=-qiqj9pXhlHNJEOy ® @wei_ying "Be happy with what you got. Don't ask for more." - John Tesh https://youtu.be/-a7y_j_RjSM?si=vBuNae082Pd1EBc9