Multiple guys approaching and aggressively hitting on a girl

You know the scene in anime where 2 guys go up and aggressively hit on a girl trying to get her to go somewhere with them. That scenario just happened in real life to a friend of mine. Can anyone explain what guys who do that are thinking? Does that ever work? I don't get. It really scared and upset her pretty bad. I want to talk to her about it, but I honestly don't understand it, so what can I say. I can only see a situation like that turning really bad for the girl if she does go with them. Is there another side of that I'm not getting? Or do you think she's scared for good reason?

Scared for a good reason. People are stupid and it's kind of a form of intimidation to come up as a group when approaching ANYONE let alone a woman. I don't know about it working, but it just seems to be a tactic where they think they're each other's wing man and probably don't realize just how creepy they actually seem.

I'm not sure what's the point because if you go in aggressively and creepily, it seems to make it really hard for yourself to get someone to be comfortable and have a good impression of you. If two guys were ganging up on me aggressively, I'd assume they wanted to rape me, I mean, that doesn't seem like a good approach if you genuinely want to make a girl like you. Either they're dumb or they're jerks. Possibly both.

The dude bros were strong in that one. Maybe this is the old warrior spirit in me, but if you saw it happening, what did you do?

Unfortunately I wasn’t there to stop it. They came up to here in the parking lot when she was walking to her car and blocked her from reaching her vehicle. That’s really not a good place to hit on a girl. And blocking her way to safety. That will definitely make them seem threatening. It scared her enough that I had to drive her to work.

Yes of course it's fucking scary, and no it does not ever "work". I'm sure just about every adult woman has gone through this situation at least once. It happens when we're out alone, usually in some kind of parking lot where there's not a lot of people around or poor lighting. Sometimes it's just one guy, sometimes several, and they'll literally stand in your path, or surround you, or block your entrance/exit to a vehicle etc, to try and coerce you into getting in their car. If this was the first time it happened to her, no shit she's freaking out, because once you're in that situation you realize how powerless you really are if a guy just up and decides to take you by force and that's basically how people end up missing in real life. These people aren't "hitting on you", they're trying to manipulate you. Guys make fun of girls all the time for being "scared to walk home at night" and when I was younger I didn't really get it either. But ever since my late teens I've had this situation happen often enough to where I really am nervous when going out alone and am always on my guard. There's not much you can do expect be there for her to talk to and offer to drive her around if she feels she needs it.

Thank you for that response. You really nailed it. And the sad part is she's more upset with herself for feeling weak and scared.

In a situation like that, feeling weak and scared is nothing to be ashamed of. Even if she "COULD" take on two guys, it's better to listen to your instincts and leave the situation before it gets out of hand. Wanting to be stronger is a good thing. But being realistic and practical are also valid forms of self defense. You don't want to put yourself in a situation where a group of people have control of it, and may not be looking out for your best interest. Even if you are strong.

Anytime. I feel bad that this had to happen to her, but just let her know that she's not alone. Like I said, it's always hardest the first time you're in this situation (not that it really ever gets any easier), but over time you learn ways to prevent it from happening in the first place (such as going out with a group instead) or tactics to protect yourself when it does. Like I work in a shady part of town so I don't walk out to my car by myself, I wait for my coworkers and we all walk out together. I'd encourage her to just bring it up to people she knows, that this happened to her, and I'm sure tons of other women will offer advice and that sort of thing because we've all been in her shoes before.