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Denial
over 6 years ago • Relationship Advice
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shadowduty7
Mar 06, 19 at 2:48pm
@festive I believe that's called being naively stubborn and immature. Such people cling to lies and whatever they can to cope/prevent change. Denial is a defense mechanism after all.....just not a rational one. I used to think I was helping people before out of selflessness in my teens....but in reality, I was doing it to feel needed and to replace my own self-esteem. The whole time I was certain my actions and talks when helping someone were strictly for their sake....but one day, I realized I was holding off harsh judgment and advice, instead choosing to pursue and selfishly try to nurture a deeper relationship with said people by being there for them and helping them, when in reality, I couldn't even do that....when I should have really been giving solid, realistic advice, fixing my own problems before trying to burden anyone else's, and not making everyone else's problems my responsibility. And in the back of my mind, I knew something wasn't right, but I couldn't figure out what, until I self-reflected on myself, my actions, and asked questions...cause altruism is often mistaken and misinterpreted by people as doing a kindness and expecting compensation in return...like a loan...but altruism isn't helping someone so you can justify to yourself that you're a good person, some charm used to help you get closer to a friend/lover, or a debt that should be repaid to you...I've learned true altruism/kindness is more about putting other's well-being and thoughts first when deciding to help them, being able to afford and commit to such sacrifices by having some goddamn self-respect... Anyways....sometimes people refuse to see the truth....other times, they simply just can't understand anymore or never knew to begin with, because all the lies, rejection, pressure, and lack of self-esteem somewhere along the line began to amalgamate, until they start living and clinging to the lie as a way of living for them to cope....without them even realizing they're living the lie anymore....which can be very dangerous....especially if this is adopted with other obstacles in life and made into a habit....cause this could easily lead to narcissistic behavior and gas lighting others to what you'd now perceive as protecting yourself....I've known people who are in such denial and insecurity, that they'll blame everyone else for their own problems, try and divert the conversation the INSTANT they realize they're wrong, use bad past experiences from the loooonnnng distant past as an excuse to get out of being productive or taking responsibility in messing up on something (example: imagine if a friend paid the rest of your bill out of "kindness" at a Starbucks, and then they demand you pay for their food EVERYTIME you're with them when they're getting food and will keep using that ONE kindness as an excuse 5 years later when they're still bothering and getting mad at you, saying that you should pay), always plays the victim, antagonizes everyone who doesn't agree with them, and rubs in how wrong they think you are, laughing or scoffing mockingly with such certainty of their belief that holds little rationality...its a pretty sad sight. It's like talking to a person living in some alternate reality. Denial is just holding off the inevitable.
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ziel
Mar 06, 19 at 2:41pm
Thank you everyone for the warm welcome
Touhou Project
over 6 years ago • Video Games Discussion
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cupcakerin
Mar 06, 19 at 10:41am
I'm relatively new to Touhou, it's a name I had heard for over a decade but I only started getting into it last year. Actually only played two fighting games and a few fan games so far, listen a bit to the music too. I'm most familiar with Scarlet Devil Mansion and its characters though. Touhou is so good, it's weird that's it's sorta well known but really obscure at the same time? More people need to know about it.
dand3re
Anyone play on PS4? I'm level 150 master prestige on black ops 4 and burnt out on it.
What's up new here
over 6 years ago • Introductions
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ookami93
Mar 05, 19 at 9:27pm
Ah, Casshern Sins, I watched it on Toonami some years ago. Welcome back.
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ookami93
Whoever posted this is a pretty mean individual.
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kingaj
Mar 05, 19 at 8:11pm
Hello welcome my best friend was just in Lithuania for 6 months
Anyone from Va?
over 6 years ago • Local Talk
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legendaryboya
Another Northern VA~ Anime is strong here~
OC thread
over 6 years ago • Art Share and Critique
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redhawk
Mar 04, 19 at 4:42am
https://i.imgur.com/45WanKf.jpg Charles Redleon (age 18) "The Black Lion" of Zernia A descendant of Aldo Redleon and the main protagonist of The Hero Saga. The second son of Lord Frederic and the late Lady Ria. After discovering clues that lead towards the imminent return of the Gerhialian Empire, following the Quroba Invasion 15 years ago, he left Zernia in secret to try and stop the resurrection of the Dark God. Being part of the Redleon Bloodline, Blood of the Great Hero and Divine Goddess, it is their destiny and duty to be prepared for the arrival of the Dark God and his forces.
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meisterman1985
Some are about Soka Gakkai and its associates including Masami Hisamoto called "Hissu Amoto San", which was the first to start some notable memes that use Kirby and BEMANI songs. https://youtu.be/4eB__fgmajM https://youtu.be/2QOv7RjBy2M Shuzo Matsuoka is another example which is often toward motivation or just making fun of him. https://youtu.be/v9Srjw_c5nA https://youtu.be/qI1uDGOkezc Others include Commando (Japanese dub), Seibu Keisatsu OP Parodies, Donald McDonald, Toyota Prius warning sound, etc.. https://youtu.be/e1aMVYoypCY https://youtu.be/HU5pys-3n_Q https://youtu.be/guODeZyO36A https://youtu.be/htyb3_7Qw5Y https://youtu.be/MbzWxqKM-VI
Overprotective Parents
over 6 years ago • Serious Talk
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meisterman1985
It is very painfully difficult living as an adult with ASD, especially when your hobbies are no longer comfortable enough to be accessed because if you do access them, important things in life will startle and freak you out like the Scary Maze Game. Along with that, my mother adores me too much causing me to be less mature and maybe more lazy, while bringing Christianity (specifically Presbyterian) as the problem solver to all problems, while bringing what her father said about Japan will possibly strike back America after WWII. Father uses "adult talk", usually in an incorrect speculating tone that can hurt your feelings harsh enough to get deeply depressed. Stepmother often gets confused on certain subjects connecting together and makes sure my English grammar is as clean and appropriate as much as possible.
Anyone from Balkans? :'D
over 6 years ago • Local Talk
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yumie
Mar 03, 19 at 1:10pm
well im from the carpathians, is that close enough?
Great news!
over 6 years ago • Anime News and Discussion
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nocturnalxassassin
A "war" lmao. Okay buddy, have fun, just do try to not hurt yourself, kay? Thanks :)
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