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Nov 18, 20 at 8:31am
neeto @neet_one
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Self reflection after bad relationships
neeto @neet_one
Sounds like a horrible relationship that you're probably a lot better off without. If nothing else you should at least know what to watch out for in the future and how to handle people like that when they come along. There's a lot of crappy toxic people out there, many of which will pretend to be something they're not at first. With any luck the next one should work out a lot better.
I was in one for a couple years that recently fell apart. we tried to "make it work", but that obviously didn't work out too well. I ignored a lot of my own advice going into the relationship because I was getting tired of holding out for something that might very well never happen and took her up on their offer even though we didn't really have much in common. It was nice for a while. I wanted to be the best boyfriend I could, and she felt like she "hit the jackpot". I tried to be supportive and giving and all that jazz, but as things went on our differences became more apparent, it felt like we might never meet in person, and that kinda drove a wedge in the relationship. I tried breaking up but she convinced me to stick it out, but she ended up breaking up with me a year later. As much as she liked me, she could tell it wasn't mutual. She's wasn't a bad person by any means, we just didn't click. I wanted someone I could chat more with and share hobbies/interests, but most of the time I'd just be supporting her with whatever problems she was having at the time.
In the end I feel guilty about the relationship. I had hopped that if nothing else I could have made some small positive impact on their life which seemed pretty shitty, but in the end it seemed as if I might have done more harm than good. I can't stress how much I dislike the idea of having hurt someone. For instance, I'd often take note of things she needed or wanted, and would send her everything from pc parts to fix her busted laptop to art supplies, she said she wasn't good with receiving gifts but I didn't take that too seriously. Apparently it made her feel guilty and stressed that I was doing so much for her and she couldn't do anything for me. I guess I just forgot that sometimes trying to help can make a problem worse. She said I was a good listener but clearly not good enough, so while I doubt I'll ever be in another relationship I guess the take away from this one would be to not be impatient while waiting for the right person to come along, to not assume anything, and just pay more attention to things that aren't so obvious.
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Nov 18, 20 at 4:46am
doesn't seem like much other than premium
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Nov 18, 20 at 12:21am
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Nov 17, 20 at 11:44pm
This account has been suspended.
Nov 17, 20 at 7:33pm
Been here a while back so im redoing it.
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Nov 17, 20 at 2:18pm
Nah, mostly bored and wanted to post something
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Nov 16, 20 at 8:55pm
Returned and gone in less then a day Lul
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Nov 16, 20 at 1:10pm
This account has been suspended.
Nov 16, 20 at 5:29am
I'm just looking to make more friends that share similar interests. I also use discord. I'm way more available on that than I am. Feel free to add me!
Randy#4121
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Nov 16, 20 at 4:23am
https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/766008415717294120/777615523760439306/image0.png
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Nov 16, 20 at 4:14am
Fire fetish increses-
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Nov 15, 20 at 3:40am
^ plot twist he is the cute girl
Nov 14, 20 at 10:43pm
I'm bored and need people to talk to. I would venture outside to talk to someone but sadly my social anxiety would hit me with it's pimp hand if I tried that.
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Nov 14, 20 at 10:02pm
https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/001/102/509/13e.gif
I didn't see that last night .... lol







