BDSM not just about boiking

The majority of guys that join see it as a dating site and want their uwu otaku magical girlfriend, some women join for friends, attention or dating sometimes. It's mostly a sausage feast and now a bot feast. If you want to date someone I recommend Tinder, Hinge, Boo App, anything else honestly because the owner ain't changing the core message of using this site for love. @rabbithole

It has been quite a while since I've seen someone post on the site with such high levels of freaky. That about page holds nothing back and I respect it. your kink is pretty freaking intense, but I wouldn't hide it and not acknowledge it. just don't use it as an opener, yeah?

I was recently on this dating app specifically for kinks and fetishes, and someone told me to just be honest in what you want. So instead of my profile looking like, Hi my names" " I really like anime and food, then later after wasted time for both, finding out that maybe I like to walk around naked at home and thats just too weird for you. This way you start with what you like, what you want, and you would like out of your partner. The thing is most apps and sites will have the same reaction as I reacived here. The one I mentioned didn't have so many bots as it did the ppl selling themselves/services. For me honestly what better way to find that one true love than to look for it in the things you love. For example you love health and conserving the planet your not going to look for someone in a bar and hope they have the same likes and enjoy life the same as you. For me pleasure is my #1 my #2 would be anime but both of those categories have terrible dating options filled with bots or money hungry thots. So I think my quest would have better results in person. Anime conventions and munchens because online and apps don't seem to have good opportunities.

I would go the opposite and start with common interests and then hope to match my freak. Your common interests will hold you together much longer than the kinky shit.

You may think that now but in the many years I've lived, I've seen countless times that one person stops or does not like doing something and the other person accepts it till they can't no more. Examples: my cousins husband love bjs and when she got pregnant it disgusted her. He ended up cheating because someone else wanted to do that for him. A friend's uncle after 40+ years of marriage she stopped wanting and he finds girlfriend. One of my best friends a girl admitted to me that she cheated on one of the nicest deserving guys she has ever been with just because he wasn't great in bed. I won't deny common interest is the glue to a relationship but I would rather find someone one with freak first then common interests. Why because the common interest can be negotiated while cravings is much harder. Let's say you like star trek and I'm all about starwars, I'm not going to cheat on you by watching star wars withsomeone else. But let's say you like sleeping alone and I like to wake up to smothering kisses...eventually someone else will want to give me smothering kisses and likes starwars. Not sure if I'm explaining right.

Different priorities. Also your cousin's husband deserves to have his nuts kicked in, but whatevs. Hope she left him. I would have 8].

Yeah I had mixed feelings about that but here is my biggest example. You find someone to vibe with right and you put your freak aside for this person. Now 50years later you can no longer walk and to find out the love of your life won't wipe your butt, won't help you shower. Why, because it's too gross. Now your relationship is on the line and maybe gets cheated on with the nurse whos willing to do what you wernt. I'm not so much looking for a kink as much as I am a vibe. Looking for that "babe you have a booger hanging out, I'll get it" Kind of love. I'm hoping that throwing out there what I want someone will read it and be like "you know I've thought about that before let me see what he's about" then from there have normal conversation about our common interests.

You just come off as a creep. Plus you married you better pay them thots to be second fiddle. You better not be broke coming off like you are. You think a woman wants to be second fiddle and just used for pleasure without getting something out of it. You got that lil boy mindset and need to grow up. You better be hot and loaded if you talking this crazy if not your delusional. I cheated while I was married which I'm not proud of but it happened. My wife was withholding sex. But, now that I'm older I get why she did it. It's because I had no emotional depth outside of sex. I was still a little ass boy. That cry when he don't get any pussy regardless of how my partner feel. I was basically forcing sex all the time even when my partner don't feel good. Meaning I cared more about the sex than my partner which is wrong. Like Chance The Rapper said she took away sex took me out of my element. I ended up cheating and moving this korean stripper into the house who pleased me in ways I never imagined. Part of me wishes I meet the stripper first part of me wish I stayed faithful. But, the marraige ending was for the best I picked her based off the sex I would get which is the most childish thing looking back. I didn't even love my wife I was just driven by sex like a lil boy. Sex is good but it shouldn't be your everything buddy heads up from a once crazed guy. I already lived my fantasy. Now I get to know the woman and love on her before we talk about kinks. My ex wife was ready for love I was ready for sex I didn't deserve her. What are you ready for my man? Love of pleasure. You say pleasure number 1 so I know something wrong with you it's a balance guy. You love on your woman she will love on you. If you only derive love from how much sexual pleasure they give you then you in for a world of hurt when that pleasure stop. My gf can withhold from me and I would be okay cause she completes me in other ways. Though she wouldn't do that she's hot natured. My ex wife took away sex to see if I would still feel the same about her without the opportunity to have sex. And, she was right for it. Cause it exposed me. I didn't care nothing about her beyond the sex. Edit: You need to end your marraige if you trying to be sneaky on the side. Or do some soul searching if you really love who you married to.

Well @willworkfor...what is that last part...oh yeah it means living your fantasy dream life in another world; isekai. I was told here we don't judge and your reply comes off as such. If I truly was a person who has something wrong don't you think you should offer solutions or outlets instead of sitting on your hi-horse because the only person your helping is your own ego when you don't know my story, or what made me get to this point of my life. You see Chad, I'ma call you Chad, I have been patient with my woman for 12 years. But I'm not here to share my life story, I'm here to ask questions and listen to opinions. Im not at strip clubs. I haven't cheated and I haven't brought any Koreans to the house because, and this is going to hurt, I'm a real man that stays when it gets rough. Once you get older you will understand but when you meet someone, you fall in love with the person they are, or the person they could be right? Now for some ppl that persons true colors usually show up in a matter of weeks. Sometimes up to 6 months! Well I waited almost 2years till I was like you know what this girl is exactly who I want, I'm in love. We marry, we decide to have kids. We have our fights but we kept it together. When she first got pregnant her whole attitude changed and she treated me like dooky. I was patient and said it was the hormones. Another year passes by we have another. Now she's pregnant 24/7 So now 3-4years have passed she's no longer pregnant hormones but it's just natural now to treat me a certain way. So am I an dookyhole for wanting to look for my own happiness or is she the one for only wanting me around for her happiness? It goes both ways Chad, everyone blames the one leaving but no one ever asks if that person is OK or what made them make such a rash decisions. What would you trade for your happiness? Would you be a bad person and do what makes you happy or stay in a compromised relationship for the happiness of others?