First loves! (&breakups)

So! My best friend broke up with her boyfriend of two years this week and she's really torn up about it. I feel awful for her. My question is how long has it taken you guys to get over your first loves? Was it serious and do you regret what happened? I guess my biggest question is: Would you go back to them or was it just too much? I'm personally not sure if most people ever get over their first real love, it's kind of something that's hard to forget about so simply. They were the first person to introduce you to that feeling after all! My first love was pretty serious and I immensely regret a lot of the things I did and said back then. As for whether I'd get into a relationship with him again... Maybe. I feel like life has ways of working things out and if all of the signs are showing it's meant to be, it's probably because it is! I really hope that I get to see some of your innermost thoughts on this topic, hopefully it'll help Megan feel better about still not being over him too!~

I guess my first love was the same person that kissed me at a Halloween party and it was literally my first kiss and after that I literally went yandere and stalked her while threatening anybody who standed in the way of me and my love life. And my first ever break up would literally have to be that time I dated this girl who literally try to gold digger me as all she wanted was money.

ahhh my first actual love >.< it was serious. we were together for 5 years. at first our relationship was a very romantic one, but over the years we just lost our spark ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it was a mutual breakup, but it was a lot more devastating than i had originally thought it would be. i got over it in time, but it took longer than any other relationship. i don’t regret anything, sure maybe some of the stupid fights we had. i still talk to him to this day, and of course i still love him. i feel that the love i have for him now is different though. it’s a more friendly type of love. he’s a good person, but i don’t know if i’d date him again. things happen for a reason. we didn’t end on bad terms, but still it took me around a year to get over him. my heart is breaking for your friend. heartbreaks are the worst

@rat queen - Aww I'm sorry to hear that, I really hope she feels better really soon because I know just how devastating that must have been for her; we've all been there to some sort of extent I think - but hey you seem like a really nice friend so I'm sure she'll be just fine with your help! As for me, gosh love is honestly just a weird thing for me. I can fall for someone quite easily after a bit of time but when I've had so many relationships and they just end up never working out (I'm lucky I got one to last a year - it's pretty rough), a lot of it just bleeds in together for me and it's difficult for me to remember because I always make an effort to move on as quickly as I can. But my first actual love, someone I actually dated, yeah it was definitely special for me - a really beautiful girl with a personality I adored and we just seemed perfect together; it really did feel like I found the one for me and I was 16 at the time so she's the girl I lost my virginity to and yeah, things were kinda amazing for a good while. We'd always spend so much time together, doing everything in school and outside of it. But over time as we grew up and what-not, things just started to fall apart - not in a bad way, we were just losing that spark because we realised over time we were just so different to each other and realized we're not going to work out in the long term. It was really heartbreaking for me, I cried about it for days even though I knew it wouldn't work - I dated girls before that but she's the one I properly loved. I'm well past it these days - it was 7 years ago at this point so over time I kept dating, fell in love and out of love several times and every single time I used my experiences to learn more about myself and the kind of girl I know I would want; even had a few friends with benefits here and there that turned into relationships but never worked out but when it's a mutual understanding, we could still be friends and even still have fun every now and then while I was still single but yeah. I've always had a really rough time when it comes to love but I'm glad I'm always giving it a try whenever I can. I mean something is bound to work eventually and if I can still make friends despite those failures then I'm pretty happy =w=

I didnt have a break up per se but I had a recent crush on someone i really liked and who seemed to like me back.  We had a mutual interest in vocaloid and jrpgs and i made her a business card that somehow turned into a gift exchange where she gave me a game. When she told me she was taken i struggled to accept the fact that she was with someone else.  The silver lining though is that i learned from this experience though.

my first real relationship (i had a girlfriend in like grade 6 and i don't really count it) took me twice as long to recover from, it just really depends on how bad the relationship. i gave my all for her and she didn't for me, and it really struck me. i'm sure she got over it a lot quicker than i did. (took me a year to recover) edit: i think it'll take her about half a year, the only reason it took me twice as long is because she is in the same year as i am in and in most of my classes, she was also in the same friend group i was in etc. i also had to recover myself, because i changed myself too much for her, i was quite literally a different person because of her. i lost a lot of friends in that relationship. it was toxic as hell, anyways.