How do you bond with other people?

Sharing food the biggest sacrifice ever ^.^ http://orig13.deviantart.net/a7f5/f/2010/194/2/4/chibi_shana_eating_by_skye23456.jpg

^I can't share food to save my life. http://33.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6rhkfuDHi1r0yq4zo1_500.gif

Idek how i bond with people lol i dont even know how i make friends you should see me irl im like super awkward its not even funny lmao i guess it just sort of happens lol I dont like sharing food but i cant say no when someone asks T-T

Arc, I pretty much share your same sentiments. I have RL friends, but our bonds aren't as strong as it was years ago. Furthermore after high school, many people I spoke to kinda vanished. Take into account(seeing you're about my age) that making friends as an adult is far harder than it is when you're a child or teenager. When you're in school you can see your friends everyday and build a bond much faster that way, as an adult, ppl have responsibilities from work,to families,to college,and so forth. You can try and make friends at a college, but like I said as an adult there are more responsibilities thus making it that much harder to make friends. If you're not into nightclubs,partying etc. it'll be even harder to find ppl to connect with,and unfortunetly ppl who share our interests, are usually the hikkikomori types who won't socialize with others regardless of likemindedness. What you need to do, is find something to distract yourself with. Myself for instance, I only buy single player video games nowadays, since the days of playing video games with other ppl are long gone. It helps to some degree, I'm trying to learn programming so I can make my own video games,and it's alot of fun, especially when my creative juices starts flowing, and it makes me forget all of my problems and brings me in a happier mood. Those are just some examples. What works for me may not work for you, and that's why you need to find something that can keep you distracted and something to look forward to when you come back home from school or work. Although TBH I'd still love to make new friends, but I learned to accept that it's an impossibility for me at least. But when I get creative or get absorbed into my games, then I tend to forget and be happy for the moment, and when I get down I'd think about them to boost my mood, and it helps. Anyway I said what needed to be said good luck to you. Where's Yaashat?

See I thought I had bonded with Most people I spent most of my time with in HS almost 2 years ago, but it turned out to be a waste of time because I seemed to escape their minds when I attempted to connect with them this summer. We would bond over lunch, drama club, anime nights, School dances, etc since I was a extroverted individual. Now it feels like I wasted 90% of my emotion when I could've had actual friends elsewhere. ~T

@Tiger Festival Man, I am almost doing the exact same thing as you right now. Playing single player video games and creating games of my own pick up my mood. It's a double-edged sword though, isn't it? It makes it that much harder to make friends when I'm on a gaming kick.

@Arc That's true. But if it's something you really enjoy, then it shouldn't be a problem. I know we all long for social interaction, but ppl are just too fickle and unpredictable, it tells me that gaining friends or a gf isn't worth the effort. I think it's best just to focus on what makes you really happy and not worry about making friends or a gf, if ppl come along the way while you're at your perkiest, awesome, you found ppl you can share interests with, but if not, that's also fine since you can be more focused on yourself instead of worrying about others.