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neeto @neet_one Yeah that seems to be a common problem pretty much everyone deals with. After all if people met other people and both liked each other, they wouldn't be on sites like this (usually). You don't seem socially retarded to me, but I'll just have to take your word for it lol. And yeah as for those types of people, I guess they just enjoy eachother's company and learning and their partners hobbies/interests. Those are one of the types that come by way a bit yeah, though I think I only met one with a mohawk so far lol. Oh and I know full well how it gets harder as you get older. People let themselves go in more ways than one and your expected to let go of standards/expectations in turn. As people get older and older they seem to care less and less and just take whatever they can get. Almost feels like a punishment for not rushing into things like everyone else. and yeah, you pretty much only get one shot at the big musical chair game that is dating/romance just to find more than half the available chairs have been ruined for one reason or another. (often times abusive douche bag ex boyfriends who treat women like disposable play things) And yeah you're right, some people get their lives ruined by it after getting involved with people who change and turn into horrible people, or were nasty from the get go but good at hiding it. I've got a friend who regrets even falling in love because he got engaged to a women who died in a car crash, and that messed him up pretty bad. Now he refuses to get involved with women ever again. But like I told him what maters is those moments they shared together. That they should focus not on the loss but the happiness they shared together even if it wasn't for long. Like, think of it this way. You wouldn't regret going on a fun trip to some exotic country for a vacation would you? Just because it eventually ended? What matters is that you were happy for a time, even if you're not anymore. And yeah I don't mind bro, I'm sure stuff like that crosses plenty of people's minds all the time.

tigerfestivals @tigerfestivals You got a point, we would have sooo many more couples than we have now if people who were into each other kept running into each other. I'm going to assume that most couples probably had to lower their standards or met someone that managed to wow them in spite of them not being of interest at first. That's my theory anyway. As for my social retardation. I really am, when I'm in an environment of people I don't know doing things I don't care for, I just have nothing to say at all. I'm just mute, and whenever anyone would talk to me, I would give very weak responses. But it's the opposite when I'm in an environment full of like minded people doing things we're all into. Due to my social retardation, I can't enjoy the company of someone who's very different from me. For example I'm an something that isn't socially acceptable amongst most people. I'm a big introvert. Like Super Saiyan God Super Saiyan Mega Evolution Introvert. THAT'S how big of an introvert I am, and as a result I can't go to parties,or night clubs or bars to socialize and sadly the vast majority of people are into all of that. I think the flipside of aging is that people mature and learn and to avoid making the same mistakes that they made when they were younger. But a part of me will always think about how I missed out on getting with younger attractive women. But life doesn't really entitle you to anything really. But I suppose if I obtain my first girlfriend at age 47 or something I suppose it's better than nothing, although she's hit the wall, probably divorced or widowed and likely has children. Eh I'll probably pass if it comes down to it. I'm not comfortable raising kids that aren't mine. But if she doesn't have kids(which is highly unlikely if she's in her 30's and up)then perhaps I'll give it a go, if we have shared interests and personality. My late sister didn't want to get into relationships anymore due to how her last BF dumped her and my late sister just was never the same after that. She would cry,she would lay in her bed all day long being depressed and I kept trying to comfort her, but she would remain depressed. Not only that but an old friend was never the same after his last GF cheated on him for her Ex that treated her poorly. My friend says he just won't get involved with women after that, since many of his GF's cheated on him before his last one did. Those are just some examples. It's a sort of damned if you do and damned if you don't. You don't get into a relationship ever, you're going to keep longing for it, yet if you get into one and it turns out great at first then goes south and ends very badly then you'll never be the same again afterwards. So you're fucked either way. As for your friend I'm sorry for his loss, if she were a great woman I'm sure she would want him to move on and find someone else and to cherish the memories like you said. As for a vacation I can't see how anyone could ever regret going on a vacation. The fact that it's finite makes you enjoy it more while you're on it. If it lasted forever you'll eventually get sick of it. I think that might be one reason why people shouldn't take the people they have in their life for granted because you never know when that person maybe gone. Sorry for the late response, I needed to digest this info. Take your time with the reply I know I dropped alot to process.

tigerfestivals @tigerfestivals For example I'm an Atheist, something that isn't socially accepted I meant to say.

neeto @neet_one Well normally they tend to have stock or stolen photos which in either case are unusually high in quality and feature uncommonly and often times unrealistically attractive people. If they're a spam bot or someone who does this sort of thing a lot, they'll probably say stock lines unrelated to you or anything you've said so far. If it's a guy who's specifically targeting you for catfishing then they'd probably be smart enough to avoid doing this things. In those cases how they act and their personality can be a give away. A full proof way to test/check is to just ask them to take a photo doing something unusual. Like take a photo holding up four fingers or something like that. Anywho, from what you've told me so far I don't see too much reason to suspect them. Maybe you just landed your a girl who legitimately likes you?