"The Dangers of Being a “Nice Guy”

Well said ThndrMge! And just so everyone will know it's not always the nice guy who get's broken up with. My 'nice guy' was the one who initiated our break up not me. He was never the jerk type or we'd have never dated in the first place.

The article makes some valid points, but I think the crux of the matter is knowing yourself, knowing what you want out of a relationship, and conveying that to the other person. This may be overly broad and general, but I believe it is one of these three things where most relationships fail.

The article makes some valid points, but I think the crux of the matter is knowing yourself, knowing what you want out of a relationship, and conveying that to the other person. This may be overly broad and general, but I believe it is one of these three things where most relationships fail.

ok look lets get this clear just because a guy is realy nice to a girl it does not mean theres a altearrearor motive ok? it means he likes you plus sex (as mentiond in the artical) is a part of any relationship women your man will want that out of you eventually ok? its a bottom line fact get over the they may or may not be easy to get with thing i mean god all mighty.... -.-" theres no real shame in going out with one people need to stop making articals about stuff like this its down right insulting and to the other nice guys out there discrimanation!there is never going to be a actually "perfect relationship" there may be a ideal one but at the same time if you dont want any problems in a relationship pieriod then dont get into one you will always incounter one end of story...

I can honestly say im not all that nice, im kinda in between jerk and nice guy actually, but it's best to be yourself no matter what anyway.

dark cosplays 07: Although I think that discrimination may play a role as far as the article is concerned, I'm not so sure that *every* guy out there is in a relationship to have sex. I'm sure there are some that don't even once realistically consider it during a relationship, or at least keep it as a far off possibility that may or may not come to pass. I know there are guys who truly do live a chaste lifestyle until they die... and they're not sad because of it. You can be in a relationship and not think about sex. You can become married to someone and not think about sex, though this is admittedly rare. Relationships spread the whole gamut: from an acquaintance you may have passed in the street to the person you decide to spend the rest of your life with, if you have plans for that.

Speaking specifically to the lifelong intimate relationships, I can't say that there's a guy who honestly takes this path and doesn't think about sex as an option. There are jerks out there that we all know about, some that trample over other peoples' hearts and feelings with disregard to satisfy themselves in whatever they feel is good at the time. This is true for both genders. There are 'nice' people who truly believe that they are nice, truly don't wish anything bad to happen to anyone they consider as a lifelong partner, and may keep such a person at (relationship-wise) arm's-length to 'make sure nothing happens until they're ready.' Thing is, if they don't know themselves, and continue to put this off, just waiting can be painful for the other person if you don't give a response. In this case, the bigger jerk might be the 'nice' person, tagging the other person along until they discover their own self, finding that it won't work out in the end after all. Then there are other 'nice' people who only play nice, but truly aren't. Lastly, there really are nice people, who truly live generously and have a giving and open heart. Unfortunately, the other 'nice' people tend to ruin their reputation for them.