"The Dangers of Being a “Nice Guy”

Well those are some really dumb chicks who are doing that. Is that what girls want nowadays for their men to just give them money & leave them to their devices ignoring every other aspect of a relationship? No wonder relationships don't last then. I would never abandon my man for appreciating me the way I deserve to be. I would give him the same devotion ten fold always putting him before myself (with the 1 exception i'm not willing to compromise on). Granted one's job, career, or school might have to take precedence sometimes, but I won't mind as long as it's not 24/7 365.

I feel like the concept of "Nice Guy" is a little to narrow in this concept since there is nice guys who aren't shy. This should actually read "the dangers of being a Nice Shy Guy". Anyway there are many factors to the "Girls like jerks" statement and frankly am a little to tired to write an essay right now but it never seems to be that simple in my eyes. I stick to my own policy, be true to myself and just be myself. To force yourself into a role is forcing yourself to have to act inside that frame/role and wouldn't that just be too boring? That is what I think atleast.

There does seem to be a pretty large number of girls who date jerks. They're normally the ones who go on about how every guy is a total jerk too, because they only go after the jerks. Being a "nice guy" is just part of who I am, but unfortunatley since alot of girls date the jerks, alot of us are left the ones who take advantage of the guy their with. I've yet to have a relationship where I haven't been taken advantage of. :\

There does seem to be a pretty large number of girls who date jerks. They're normally the ones who go on about how every guy is a total jerk too, because they only go after the jerks. Being a "nice guy" is just part of who I am, but unfortunatley since alot of girls date the jerks, alot of us are left the ones who take advantage of the guy their with. I've yet to have a relationship where I haven't been taken advantage of. :\

Nice guys finish last. Shy guys deserve to die. I hate these precipes these selective truth piss the hell out of me. There has to be hope, or am I just brain washed from to many love comedy anime. It's horid that it seem' s to be this way nice is boring, and assholes are awesome. Where's the like, where the love, where the slow progression of getIng to know each other one another. It's depressing , the sad state of interpersonal relations. If want some semblance of happiest it seems you need to master deception, until it becomes the reality. pretend to Be a jerk til you are one, pretend to be mundane until you are it seems you'll be better off.

<-- Prefers the Nice guys. Maybe thats just the Southern Belle part of my personality but, dating a guy who is being a jerk, only leads to girls saying "All guys are jerks." portion of her life. I prefer a guy who : writes poems for me, wants to cuddle, hold hands in public, ffs PDA! But those guys are few and in between.

no they aren't few & far between they're all freakin gay! XD all my hot, sweet, loving, funny, everything i'd want in a man, guys are gay. XD

The story of the "Nice Guy" is my life story. As I grew up I would be kind, caring, generous and self-sacrificing for anyone and everyone that considered me even remotely close to a friend. Late in high school, I realized that I wasn't going anywhere with this mentality, it felt like I was giving away far more than receiving anything. Felt like I was being taken advantage of. I went through a short "i'm a jerk" phase, before realizing, "Hey, why am I doing this? I should just be myself!" I went back to bein' a "nice guy" but instead of only thinking about others, I started to think about myself as well. I was confident and would attempt to be a generally warm and friendly person, I made many many friends from this. However, I never manage to land a girl, the past two relationships I did have, ended for seemingly no reason and by the girl both times. I've moved on however, and realize that sometimes, things just don't work out. Being a nice guy doesn't mean being a loser, just have to be confident and willing to adapt for others. That's my opinion anyway.