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"The Dangers of Being a “Nice Guy”

missanthropic
being a doormat isn't the same as being nice. personally, i like a true gentleman... which is not to be confused w/ a whiny, immature "nice guy".
kronos
I don't think of myself as whiny and immature. I'm just sentimental, I guess.
jefe
Why do girls always say that a shy guy cant express them self, have they ever though that maybe the guy is just reserved and doesn't what to be mean
missanthropic
a different perspective on "nice guys" http://divalion.livejournal.com/163615.html
raz
The nicest guys typically care so much in a relationship to the point where they break down and become insecure at the slightest negative vibe their girlfriend makes. Drowning in love is a scary thing and I pity all you nice guys who have experienced it. GUYS: If you find yourself being obsessive you have to try your hardest to remain mentally stable. Girls aren't wired to understand your true emotions so you have to fit the role of a nice guy with compressed emotions. Compressing your emotions doesn't come over night but usually through waves of bad relationship experience. You must learn to love and respect yourself first.
zerofivenosh
In my case (i would say im half nice/ IDGF) Being really nice to girls makes them nervous and they start to mess up bad because they dont know how to act. Like you would take them out to someonewhere nice and they try to do the same for you but but to much expectation on it. I also had the problem with girls thinking im say the look/dress nice all the time, but if you don'r wear rags and keep clean wtf am i suppose to say. Or they just bat sh+t crazy, on girl though i was being nice to her to get something from her....never found out with that something is. Nothing wrong with being a nice guy just look out for these issues - Treat her like a lady,then a queen, then a person, and queen - she is not as great as you think (no one is) - Be bold and Hold you own (don't be super submissive (im passive girls dont know the difference) - Alway pay attention to the red flags, trust me...beware the signs Happy hunting
shinta_otsuki
this is what i think went wrong with my last relationship that was 3 yrs old.. and was my first ever. one of the things she said she hated about me was the fact that i never got mad at anything. the problem is that i DON'T get mad at many things, instead, i understand them so that i don't get angry. turns out that SHE wanted me to break up with her earlier but what i wanted to do (as a hopeless romantic) was try to save the relationship i will admit that this opened my eyes to the fact that i was the 'token nice guy' and that i was even a doormat. so thanks to this breakup i am stronger than ever, i now know that i must learn to hold my ground when i truly do disagree with something. i still won't stop being nice because i don't wish harm on people, there are enough jerks in the world as it is
augos
What about "The regrets of being unattracted to Nice Guys" or "The dangers of being attracted to Bad Boys"? And let's make this clear that 'nice' does not equal squimish or wimpy, it is just sometimes synonymous.
roukuro
Nice is unexciting. Badass is unattached. Real men can be a balance between both without the drawbacks and that is naturally charming to women.
uglymod
Difference between sweet and nice. Women are attracted to dominant sweet guys. Be assertive but sweet. Yes, if you are a video game player make some freaking sacrifices. What do you want more??? Achievements or a relationship with a man/women?
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