Can you get in a relationship without pickup lines or witty banter?

Don't know anything about dating or relationships so i'll just say pick someone who gives back the same energy you put in.

I don't talk much my gf is the chatterbox and funny one. I told her I'm quiet though before we started dating. When we together I talk and we get along fine joke and have fun. But, on the phone it's mostly her talking. But, she loves me and I love her. My personality is fried trying to spiritually awaken and fight narcissism and schizophrenia. I'm glad she understands. She's the sweetest thing ever. She never makes me feel bad about my 2 brain cells that make me quiet and just loves me for me. Never meet a woman of such caliber.

Aleph brings up a lot of good points about the dating environment. I'm assuming it's more or less the same as it was 10 years ago when I was using dating apps. Here is my perspective from somebody who was extremely shy. Apart from being tall, there are two things that will drive your success with women on apps: -confidence -wit You have to be confident and bold with everything you say. Don't be afraid to be wierd as long as you know the boundaries on what creepy would be. My strat? Mix a cocktail. Get tipsy. Open the app and fire off lots of wild introductory messages. It really doesn't matter what you say, just make sure it is FUN and ENGAGING. It doesn't have to be rocket science. I had a multi-day chat with a random hot girl because my first message to her was "based on your pictures, you look like somebody who hates unicorns." I started getting a 30% response rate, which is huge. If they were boring and didn't engage with banter I would move on. Small talk is a waste of my time, and it's a waste of most girl's time. Just open up that app, and just start firing off messages. See what works for you.

I don't know shit about getting woman attention I been winging it all this time lol. I just be myself I never try to force it and be calculated. I'm just lucky I look good. So I skip most of the games. I don't know what the fuck they want I'm just me if you like me cool. Game ain't never been broke so never had to fix it. I mean I have a inkling of what they want and move accordingly but I never think about it deeply so I have no game to give. Cause I never really know what I'm doing. I just listen to the thought when it say this will work. I don't question it or analyze what I'm doing. I just do it.

Of course! No matter how dull you are, there's always someone out there more pathetic than you are. The issue though, is the internet has convinced dudes like this... https://i.pinimg.com/736x/03/26/58/032658bb79ee709d6a8b4998b4e89104.jpg ...can pull girls like this https://i.imgur.com/ImccW7n.png ...by just being a "nice guy." And when the girl 87 levels outta their league don't reciprocate their feelings, the guys get depressed, watch more FreshandFit and Whatever podcasts, then lament how girls only like fuckbois.

I've never used a pick up line in my fucking life, except when I was making fun of them, or making a joke at my own expense. Number of women I've longterm? 2. Short term? 6. Number of unrequited romances I've pursued? 5. Number of times I've had someone crush on me without even knowing it? 4 Number of women I've said no to? 4 How? Fuck it, if you think you have good chemistry with someone, say it early, then ask them if they're interested in exploring the option of trying to figure out what you are to them. It doesn't need to mean anything at that point. Putting it off too long is how guys like us get friend zoned. And while talking isn't my forte, my workaround was to DO interesting things with them so that I would actually have things I could talk about with them. I should ALSO note that... Yeah, at this point in my life, I've kinda given up on romance, and that's due to a myriad of reasons pertaining to my own shadow work and healing after my brother died, and also my feelings of having just missed my oppertunity. I peaked late in life, and just as I was finally starting to get into the swing of things, tragedy struck, I spent 3 years in a hole, and I was no longer that version of myself when I emerged. I wouldn't wish the me right now on anyone. XD