What does it truly mean to be with someone that is compatible with you?

Are majority of relationships just manipulated by people not wanting to feel alone. Why is it easier for others to find someone to be with or comfort them even if it isn't a healthy dynamic. Is there even such thing as a healthy non advantage taking meaning in a relationship that didn't start as youths?

That's the thing. If you date/marry someone compatible with you, something will happen to them eventually. That's just how life is. It means that life is gonna shit on you. You found someone great. Nice, good for you. It doesn't come free. It's just balance.

As you get older, yeah I think so. It's just people with less and less in common who just don't want to be alone. It's easy to find someone compatible with you when you're young and don't have many experiences to differentiate you from others, and the people around you would likely share many of the same experiences, making them more compatible. Older people I've spoken with that on their second of third marriage tend to just throw themselves at anyone that's available and don't ask for much, and don't seem to get much either. Whole thing seems kinda depressing but that's just the reality of it. Still, it's probably better for most people to go for that than to hold out forever for someone compatible that probably won't ever show up in your life. I'm not sure if I'd call it a mistake, but I certainly screwed myself over by doing that. At this point I think it's pretty much impossible to find someone I'm compatible with, but I guess I've reluctantly learned to accept that.

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you ever have a friend you really vibed with? kinda friend you can just sit in a room with and say nothing, doing your own things and just enjoying being in their company? its like that but you also fuck. as for the manipulation/power dynamic question, im not sure what relationshups you've had and i'm sorry if they have been like this, but thats not normal. an uneven power dynamic can be normal, but that doesnt mean one side is leveraging this power over the other. an uneven power dynamic can be something as simple as a stay at home wife/mom. doesn't necessarily make a relationship unhealthy. relationships that are unhealthy and yet they stay is usually due to some codependence and fear of being alone. this isn't most or the majority of relationships. iv never personally had a relationship thats ever been so unhealthy, and im sure the majority of people havent as well. i know it can be scary letting people in, especially after youv been hurt, but people are individuals, and you should try and trust your own judgment more. and no, most people meet at work and college, not school or in their youth lol. people are getting married most often in their early 30s late 20s, not early 20s or late teens lol

Uh... To be honest, I forget what being in a relationship is like. But I've never felt compelled to manipulate someone into being with me or staying with me. And while I've had one person try that with me, these days I screen for dark triad traits like narcisism, sociopathy, and machiavellianism before even letting myself get attached to anyone, even as a friend. And I find that helps me keep out of drama. Look for the red flags. How do they treat their friends and family, or even just strangers on the street. If you understand how they value their bonds with others, it goes provides a kinda snapshot into what a longterm romance is going to be like. Thing is, I'm kinda over the whole dating thing. I found out I actually enjoy being alone. The game really does change once you get over your 30s. https://img.ifunny.co/images/27cae90ba0491c0be8e1acaf3689662c34d0d12e228ac353ff0ae690579221aa_1.jpg

Relate... It's literally in the name of relationship. It's like asking how does one become friends(Speaking of, that's exactly what you must be with a partner, as well.). You must relate. There's give and take, sure. However, if you BOTH are not on the same page with fundamentals, it ain't gonna work. Even then, things take work, constant work from both sides. It's not about manipulation. Sure, people do manipulate, but that's not healthy nor is it conducive for a long term relationship. What I see in this thread,from at least a couple of people is a sense of self preservation by putting up walls and honestly, I get it. The thing is, if you never let your guard down, how are you ever going to truly let someone in enough to know you and you know them? We want to protect ourselves and in doing so we often wall up, thus blocking/self sabotaging. Be smart, be observant,but remember that others are well aware of how you're coming across and they themselves may block you out, too.

@yaasshat I mean, uh... Say, Know anyone who's into broke ass guys with medical debt, who drives a vehicle that barely starts, and can't even get hired in the local sweat shop in town? Comes with a free spiritual attachment, being the ghost of his twin brother who gives empaths and psychic mediums severe head aches because he kinda died by a brain tumor? If not, I kinda have to prioritize different things right now... Kinda been off balanced like this for the last decade.

A healthy relationship is still new to me but I enjoy it. It's been making me become better and healing. Being there for eachother beyond material means. Putting in effort, trust, loyalty, and not changing eachother. Being proud of your partner openly. Been with my gf all night on call when she is sick and it's a serious commitment. Not everyone can do that. But when you love someone and are compatible effort becomes second nature. I hope to always make her smile. Never going to bed angry at eachother.