fair enough, if we reached out and looked on the newest tab more often, more people would stay probz
I just care for like 3 people here that's why I stay I guess.
To make this community better we should focus to improve this site more as a Dating platform OR as a social media site. Both together is this wirr warr called MO.
I wholeheartedly agree on this. I've been on here for roughly 2 weeks (at most, maybe?) and noticed a few inconsistent things. Discord was one good idea (not sure if I'm on that one or not), but what if someone doesn't have discord? When I was on an RPG Maker forum, we had a public chat to make it easier to talk to one another. Just for either random stuff, or help on our games. which for serious talk on that, PMs help (which we have already, I know. but moving from public chat to PMs is what I meant).
I think we should all make a list on things we like about this site, things we hate, stuff that could be improved and etc.
I like this site, I love the people here and I would hate for it to enter a "quiet" state again :'(
So a bit of spring cleaning could help as well. I know some sites want to keep certain threads. But I've seen a few multiple of the same type of thread, thinking "why not just bump the old one?" But that's me. Again, that's for the list of things if everyone agrees to it. If not, I'll just type out my list and post it later.
And I probably rambled a bit there. Oops.
I honestly think theres a better dichotomy to describe what happens here. we have several groups that come here:
the ones who just want a community to make friends and go to conventions with or meet up
and those wanting to use this site as a dating site.
we get others who are introverted and creep out other people on the site and they never stay.
while being extraverted and intraverted has some play within this site, i think its more allong the lines that most ppl dont try to use the public side of the site. the forums are where half of the fun is.
None of us who are veteran members of this site are trying to push people away, we welcome everyone as long as ur not sexually harassing people or stalking/harassing others.
many of us veterans want people to feel welcome, we encourage debate and an open platform for everyone here.
Remember we are all weirdies here when you look at how society looks at all of us.
The problem is cliques and lack of reaching out?
Good luck on that changing, it's been this way for a long time. Others have offered advice, only to soon disappear themselves. Besides, there's only really a handful of regulars that actually interact on the forums. There are a ton of people on this site, just not a ton who care about any sort of community. But, if most believe it to be a dating site, it's no wonder most don't care to try to even make any sort of functional community. Personally, thats why I think the social aspect should be the main focus and selling point.
The reason why I stay here in this site is to continue on with my search for someone that I can feel compatible with here in New York City while also making friends. I already left once before but I do not want to do it again as I want to continue on and do better for myself then I would anytime before. I know that a lot of people have left before even trying or some felt that this app or website is just a waste of time but I feel that there is more to MO. Just like MeetMe, it's not just a dating app it is also to meet new people and make friends with them as well.
Didn't really bothered much reading through all the posts, one thing is missleading tho
Both extroverted people and introverted become veterans here, introverts have a chance to communicate without having the interference of physical availability that is what most introverts suffer from, it's less difficult and easier to interact, while extroverts, we make huge nets of contacts and tend to get bored easily
I think this place has a steady balance of veterans vs newcomers but definitely there's way more introverts here
Hi~ I just joined today! If I may input my opinion...I think your halfway on the mark but I don't think that's the complete reason why "introverted/new" people leave or feel excluded.
My first impression of this place isn't so great. It feels like this website is still in its beta stage and has yet to truly become what it's trying to promote.
This is more of a social website with a common interest than any useful dating/friendship tools. The forum posts are very limited in topics and even if shy people wanted to participate there are way too many trolls and people who can't hold a decent/serious conversation to make friends. That's a big turn off and something I stay away from. I'm sure "veterans" have grown with this website over the years have learned to adapt and accept the unpolished features, but it's not really charming to new fellas.
The quality of conversations we see here are not so great either. Most of them are goofy topics with unsubstantial importance, or are serious topics with inappropriate comments and trolls. That isn't the type of community environment I want to make friends in. I might as well stick with gaiaonline because it offers the same thing (diversity, trolls, singles/married, messaging system) except with more options, better foundation, more people, and more forum topics - overall a bigger and more engaging community. Despite there being trolls everywhere, they can easily be ignored due to high traffic while this site moves slowly.
Also, as stated previously before, half of the people are looking for a relationship while the other is looking for friendship. There is a blurred line between the two within the community because the forum is a social place for everything. Everyone's goal is mixed up together and people can't distinguish the differences. Throw in the trolls and you've got the source of the problem.
I don't mean to come off the wrong way, if I did, but this is just my first impression. This website needs a lot of polishing up to do if they're trying to build a community that they're currently promoting in their headlines...
Another issue, I don't even see any moderators...
Same opinion as Bob(ED) except that i did bother reading through >.> .. infact most of the people active in the forums are introverts! They find talking online easier and so they frequent here, extroverts are rare in this site. Even the ones who aren't active in forums are active in chats. So yes most of this site is introverts with few extroverts out there. Reaching out to the ones who doesn't interact and improving the community thing is nice but it has no relation to the extrovert/introvert thing. Tbh u mostly behave differently irl and in online world.
I have even met people here who are Extroverts but totally inactive in forums and only active in chats ^^