Which do you fit into more or perhaps a combination of both or neither.
What do you think drives you to be the way you specified?
Hmm I'd like to say altruism. I don't know exactly what drives me but I generally enjoy helping people or making them happy it makes me happy to do so.
I'd like to say altruism as well, for the facts that I don't like to be the center of attention, and if I do something good I prefer no one to know about it. I feel almost guilty about it otherwise for the exact reason that people might misconstrue my intentions. Plus I just think it is the obligation of the people who have to help the people who don't have, whether we want to or not. If you never help others then you are just going to only care about yourself and I don't think that's healthy.
When I analyze my thought process, I'd say I'm somewhere in the middle with a bias towards altruism through empathy with others. Though I notice often that when someone needs a hand, my body reacts before my mind does, and suddenly I'm helping a janitor pick up a spilt trash can, handing a vagrant a twenty with the rest of my fries, and trying to help a friend navigate a tough situation. So I guess it doesn't matter how I frame it in my mind. My actions definitely bias towards altruism. And then I find myself in the weight of my actions all like "Well wait a minute, now how am I going to buy gas so I could get home?"
A combination of both.
It depends on what kind of help they want from me and what kind of persons they are.If they are strangers, usually I won't take the initiative to help them unless they ask me to help them meanwhile I have the ability to help them, or they will die without my help.In the society, so many people take it for granted that they should get help from others because they belong to the "vulnerable group".
Before making up my mind to help certain people, I have to consider beforehand whether their conditions will become better because of my help and whether I have the ability to help them with less sacrifices of my own welfare.
It's a combination of both for me. I like to help people out and make them feel better about themselves and all that stuff because I want to and it makes me feel good that I can go out of my way to help other people. However I can't spend the entirety of my life just trying to help others because that simply isn't going to get me where I want to be in life, I have to help myself and that's the scenario I've been finding myself in lately.
There are times where selfishness is necessary or flat out required - where I have to prioritise myself over everybody else. It sounds terrible to say but I simply cannot be everybody's hero all the time, especially at times when my life is a total wreck. My mom is awful at understanding me on this subject or she just chooses not to - sure she has disabilities and I'll happily give her a helping hand if needed but I simply can not spend every waking moment taking care of her because that's not fair on me - I'm a human being with hopes and dreams and I don't want that kind of life. I want to go far and become successful but when I have people who try to drag me down for their own benefit then that's where I take issue. I have my own life and I want to live it how I want to.
Can I balance altruism and egoism? On most days, yeah I can totally do that because I love helping others especially close friends who are in need of me. But in my opinion, when it's my life, I always come first and I feel that's how everybody should approach their lives. You first, close relationships and family second and everybody else last BUT we shouldn't ignore those around us. So be kind to everyone you meet, wish everyone the best of luck in their endeavours and don't be afraid give them a helping hand when they really need it just to get them back on their feet. Just remember it's your life - live for yourself first and foremost and don't let anyone drag you down.
Egoism, for the simple fact that nobody pays my bills, but me, myself, and I.
Idk tbh. I’m still on a “Surreal” engine of thought
Egoism to the point that Altruism is just Egoism that is satisfied by catering to other people. Why else would they say shit like "it feels nice to be nice"? Well that feels nice is just a release of neurotransmitters. Just because you get dopamine by being a pussy doesn't mean everyone else does.
whenever i get an ego i feel like life has always put me in my place
"oh i look pretty" *looks in a mirror a day later and i look ugly*
"wow im really good at drawing!" *see someone whos younger than me draw something amazing*
"sweet! im doing hella dps on my warrior! im gonna pug a raid!" *does the worst damage and leaves out of shame*
every damn time