Confused as shit.

So, I met this amazing guy named Mikel that ended up loving my sense of humor and he even drove three hours to come see me. I shortly dumped him after the visit because my ex boyfriend (who I dated for 4 years previously) started talking to me (I know, I know. I'm a complete idiot) and I started dating my ex for a while. (We are officially over. Not planning on getting back with him whatsoever) Mikel got another girlfriend who works at the same place as him, but he constantly messages me and it's always a little awkward. As much as I really like this guy, I just think it's wrong that he says stuff like a 'boyfriend' would to his girlfriend towards me. And even though I have the power to break them up, I am NOT that type of girl. It's so confusing because sometimes we talk, then completely stop then he starts talking to me, again and he says the same things such as, "I miss you." "I really do care about you." "I still love you." blah blah blah So recently I told him to give up on me after he told me he felt like I "was slipping away" from him. And even though I did the right thing because he's still with the other girl, I regret it so much. And it's not like I want to cry or anything about it, but more like I feel like I lost something good because I'm letting my pride -or something getting in my way to try to get him back. Not sure, but any advice on what to do can help me open up my mind.

My best advice is to move on. No offense, but you dumped a guy just because your ex started talking to you again. It really gives the impression that you didn't really care for him in the first place. Not saying that is how you are; it's just the impression the story gives off. So again, I'd say that you have to own that you messed up and just move on.

Yeah, I know. I don't even know why I did that. My friend says he's just really good at manipulating me, but I made sure that we were threw after that. Believe it or not, this isn't the first time I've done this. I don't know why I do it. Is it because I'm scared to get to close to someone different than my ex? or I don't even know.

It might be, but just remember that there are a lot of other guys out there. Ones that you can have a happy, working relationship with. By working I mean that it'll work out naturally without all that manipulation bullshit. :3 Personally, manipulators really make me mad; I have 3 older sisters and they all seem to have a knack for getting with guys who are good at manipulation. -.-

Don't even be friends with him. Cut ties and just call it quits. Trust me. And that's the only advice i'm gonna give... You were also a punkass for leaving him for your Ex. Disgraceful lol.

If he was saying those things that you'd say to a romantic partner while he was with someone else, I'd be worried about how faithful the guy actually is. If he's not even making an effort to just choose one girl then he's not that good for you. Breaking all connection to him would probably be best for you. D: You can find someone waayy better. c: