Dating someone who in general ignored your interests.

I reacently got out of a 5 year relationship because I just couldn't take not being true to myself anymore. I'm not saying the relationship was all bad because we did make good memories, but she found anime and video games to be weird. Although she supported me, which was nice...all in all we didnt really have a lot to talk about, and all we really did was have sex. Don't get me wrong, sex for me is fun....but that's not what I wanted our relationship to be based around. So my question to the community is this: Have you ever felt like you weren't being true to yourself for the sake of the other person? And if so, how did your circumstances change?

Been there, but I learnt early on to end it quickly if we didnt have a lot of the same interests. I think in the end, you did the right thing, for both her and yourself. Every relationship is a compromise, but sounds like the one you were in, there was plenty of compromise on both parts, but then you found yourself not really having much in common with her, other than the sex. I'm surprised you made it 5 years, to be honest. But yeah, relationships are always easier, when both parties have at least a few things they both like that they can enjoy being together doing them. Good luck in finding a relationship where you have that, they are definitely the best.

That's pretty much all I ever run into around here at least. I've tried, and it's been nothing more than a pain. Relationships rarely lasted more than a few months. Always cutting on games, anime, etc. as a waste of time or something only socially inept people do.

When I was with my ex, we had this discussion a few times. We were lucky, in that we didn't mind if the other person didn't share our interests, but it did make certain things hard. When I was at her house, we typically watched movies. If I could get her to watch anime, even one of the few anime's that she liked, it was only for an episode or two. I discovered that not being able to share an interest like that was frustrating, and when we broke up I admit I was a little relieved that "next time" I could look for someone that would share those interests with me. All the same, she didn't make me feel stifled or denied, just a little frustrated when we tried to make things overlap, y'know?

Yeah, kind of got into a relationship out of spite since the day before I found out my ex of four years had been cheating on me.. The new relationship was okay, but I decided it wasn't worth suppressing the things I like just for him.

I feel like even if you didn't like that person's interest.. you should commit to it regardless. It seems frustrating but I think it gives an opportunity to tap into their interests and see what they like. Who knows? You'll find happiness in new ways.

That is true, and we did try it. We were together for 5 years..and even though she was content, she wasnt necessarily happy. Either was I actually...which is why it ended.

I see. Did you ever wonder why you had sex? I feel like people are impatient, or it's something everyone thinks they should lose like it's a curse or something.

I feel like it will end badly, if you're interests aren't the same. My first boyfriend, dumped me and made my life hell, just because he found my anime. I think that anime is always going to be identified as weird, so you should find someone who shares you're weirdness. ^•^