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criselington
Thats a good point. I think its gotten easier and harder if that makes sense.
criselington
One one hand as you stated, it's way easier to find people with similar interests with how far the internet has gone and it's easier for many people these days to share and talk about these interests, especially if you're talking behind screens. On the other hand there are many creepy or predatory people pretending to be someone they're not which can put people on guard. Not to mention it seems having actual conversations have become harder to have as today's age conversations are usually shortened to quick text or simple replies. As I stated in my own view it seems easier and harder at the same time for people these days
swadian
Well Cris, that's a good indicator of things not flying in the long run. You don't have to always be glued to someone 24/7 to run a relationship and you don't need to have meaningful conversations with them every single time you two talk either, yet if every single interaction starts to feel monotonous then you might have a problem there. If everything can be said with a few words to keep it short then you'll eventually begin to think it is boring
verucassault
I only pursued someone that was 100% invested in pursuing me. I could typically tell with how conversations went if it was going to work out or not since I'm more of a cerebral type person. If we can't communicate, there's no point in trying, basically. And if someone seemed aloof, it was usually a red flag. Like they could talk with other people, they owed me nothing, but focusing on me alone meant something. Like the conversations that would go: Hey! How are you doing? Great, what about you? I'm good! So what's up? Nothing... how bout you?? *bangs head into desk* <<<I don't miss that shit
criselington
Yeah haha you have to find the middle of the road. Where the person is actually invested in you and want to communicate. You don't want it to just be strictly on one side of the spectrum or the other. It'll never work if your replies consist of the bare minimum words required to make a response, never reach out first, or show no interest and/or concern in conversation. You also don't want it to be where the person write whole entire storybooks when reaching out and trying be living, breathing, and being you 24/7. That can be suffocating. You always have to remember it's a relationship and not that one person you check in on once every month or two or trying to fuse into one single entity.
mrkingofspades
@criselington @verusassault Yes conversation skills seem to be dwindling. I expect it from those that are younger, but even some of the thirty-plus year olds I've talked to are very brief and boring. Like you can't even joke with them. I met this one woman in a discord server, she had added me so I figured she'd at least be interested in having a conversation. After like a day or two of messaging I decided to show my friend the conversation and ask if I was doing something wrong. My friend said, "honestly you'd probably have a better time talking to a wall. She seems boring af." Then I told her that it was like 90% of people. She's glad she doesn't need to date anymore, or make friends, to say the least.
joemama711
I see dating in general as going out to eat at a new spot, could be fire though you're sacrificing time and money as well as nutritional value for taste and comfort. It could be really shitty and you get food posioning from it, in the end every experience is different and I find it very hard to convey personality and interest through text and online interactions. I will say that I think some people just want the love and affection of a relationship without the actual label or responsibility it comes with.
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joemama711
Is that a drake pfp lmfao
joemama711
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