Relationships/Marriage Dump

@yaasshat Honestly though you have girls that cum within five mins or 15 mins I wish I was that type ill have a damn godlike sex life then wouldn't I but I can't I can't have the whole eat my pussy til a cum scenes okay there is guys out there that dislike blowjobs they can actually hate it and neverrrr cum with it same with females they can't cum when a guy does it even if the motherfucker a damn god okayyyyyy it not werid to them it just they JUST CANT. XP I need an hour or so to even get close yes I need it inside no other way can DO IT for me...it just what it is... Just what the damn body needs...i wish it was different i wish i was different I wish it was fucking different but it is what it is and what i am...idk maybe i am a freak of nature cause I last sooooooo freaking lonnnnggggg im not happy about it it sucks ass most of the time if i can release myself sooner I would but over an hour or atleast an hour with penis in me is what i need. Some people last longggggggg....

Is what it is. I do know that most don't even like the penetration part to last that long, they get sore, you get sore, it feels mechanical after a while, I don't care about stamina...it gets hot, too.XD Foreplay is more than just oral, too. However, everyone is different and that's why sexual compatibility is also a thing. Also, I'd recommend incorporating toys,if it takes that long. Generally speaking, you'll be disappointed if you expect the actual penetration to last an hour or more EVERY TIME. Pretty sure you've figured that out.lol

@yasshat It really just comes down to communication with your sex partner I have known some guys with penis control..this one guy told me once that if you think about cumming chances are you will cum early so don't think about cumming and stop the sex before you do and hold it back..which helped him the dude almost cum four times when i was riding him but he stopped it i applauded him for that dude was like 19 years old and had such good penis control.Not a lot of men have such control of it women can't do that. We just cum we don't hold back or I never wanted to hold back my orgasm cause I have such a long time just to get one. But yeah men can make themselves last longer with practice. I just can't seem to cum in five mins though...I mean I would I tried toys for orgasms...sure and have gotten them it just.......just.... PLASTIC IS NO REPLACEMENT FOR DICK...mmmkay? I LOOK AT THE PENIS AND I'M LIKE OH YEAHH BABY BUT THEN I LOOK AT THE DILDO AND I'M LIKE MMMMM OKAY LET'S SEE HOW LONG THE BATTERIES LAST THIS TIME.. A TOY JUST CAN'T REPLACE A PENIS.... maybe a tongue though. Like the tongue ones for the vagina..those look interesting.*shrugs* But, I have tried toys and it's just not the same it just can't beat the REAL DICK...

Not all men can do or achieve the same things. Can most have better control? Sure. Is it like turn on or off a switch? Ha! Anyways... Kegals help with that to some degree (Men can do kegals, too.). I do agree that communication is key, though. As for women and toys? Never had one that'd complain when it came to INCORPORATING them. Never said they were a replacement...mmmkay? Hey, if all you want is PIV, then that's what does it for you. It's a case of whatever works and that's good. Be glad you've figured that much our for yourself.

Stamina can be a double-edged sword to be honest. Definitely have encountered my fair share of women that get sore or outright tired during prolonged sessions. One ladyfriend was prompted to ask me "why does it take all that"... felt sorta bad but what can you do... I'll get tired and hot but can generally maintain unless interest starts to wane, it's uncomfortably hot, or it feels too one-sided. I realized some time ago that sex never really "did it" for me. To me, it was primarily the act of service in giving pleasure that was the draw... But if it's one-sided, it can easily start to feel like either it isn't good enough for the other person to want to reciprocate or they just aren't feeling it. That thought can very quickly assassinate an erection for me. One of my longest relationships was with someone that would only return favors about 15% of the time. I could spend 30 minutes or more downtown until my beard was dripping and gloopy but in return I'd get 10 minutes tops on a good day. The rest of the encounter would basically be checking the boxes and hoping sexual frustration wouldn't be the end result. Not that me not getting there is some sort of deal breaker, it just makes you feel kinda crappy when you put a good degree of effort into getting your partner over the hump but you get what you get. But I've had all sorts of situations go awry. When I got out of the hospital once, I would reach the finish line in record time that surprised (and embarrassed) even me. Fortunately, my partner knew it was out of the ordinary and that I had been in the hospital around 3 or 4 weeks. Prior to that, I had a good friend that I would go out with on pseudo-dates, really just having a good time and never planned on crossing over into intimacy. After being questioned why I wasn't interested, we decided to give it a shot. I don't know if I was too caught in my own head or if I just really did not see her that way, but at least the first 2 or 3 attempts were major fails. Eventually we managed to make it work, but it was still hit or miss. I felt terrible on multiple levels considering I kind of confirmed to her that we should remain friends in a very unintentionally blunt manner and trying to revert back to the good friends we were was difficult to pick back up in the same way we had left it.

@sailingteacup When it comes to Sex, I don't find the talk of it gross (we are all human, most of us instinctively crave sex to some compacity), I personally would get anxiety of discussing it in a public setting if that is where it was brought up, but in private I would be ok with it if I trusted the person. How many Sex Partners she had really isn't a deal breaker to me (especially in this day in age), so long as she hasn't cheated on any of her previous partners or doesnt have an STI, it is totally ok. Plus I am a virgin so that says something. For now that is all I have to say

To each their own. Reading all of these different experiences in bed definitely shows that sexual compatibility seems important. Certainly wouldn't want the partner looking for another way if the other isn't satisfying enough. I can only imagine how hurtful that can be. Teacup makes a point. Knowing how many girls a guy had sex with could leave some girls feeling bad if it's found out right in the beginning of the dating life. Probably should save that info until a strong enough bond is made so it can be more accepting due to growing love between the two. I know people say opposites attract but it doesn't for me. My ex was very different from me that I found it hard to talk to him sometimes. Especially when he consistently called me ignorant all because I don't believe what he reads online or had different point of views from him. The difference got so bad that when I mentioned after a year of dating that independence is attractive to me and also gives a sense of security and made suggestions on looking for a place to live for him and that I wanted to one day move in with him and be close to each other instead of two states away he turned incredibly hostile and started verbally abusing me cuz my way of thinking wasn't the same as his. He was scared and didn't want to live off of his parents nursing him and keeping him dependent. I didn't want him to be always dependent and also wanted him to learn to pay bills, how to manage money, and not always spend it on a bunch of merch, games, and weed. I really wanted him off the last two things the most, but he turned ugly and decided abusing me would make me change my mind and think like him. So I learned that I'm fine with a few differences between each other but I want more in common with my future bf other then more differences. It can get frustrating.

Yeah... people are pretty terrible. The human prerogative that pushes us toward codependence and intimacy is tiring. Maybe the metaverse will break this trend but I doubt it. That technology will be sexualized in tall order very soon. Elon needs to hurry up and get their iRobot droids into production. Partnership with Fleshlight and boom...