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silverman1205
Been doing a lot of thinking recently. I don't have much of a social life... but I really want to find someone. I know I shouldn't feel like I need someone to feel whole, but I just see so many people happy in relationships as well as loving each other. Do I have a chance at ever finding anyone? I don't know how to talk to people or "just put myself out there". I am utterly clueless basically. I suppose this is more of a vent, so I hope I am not too much of a bother.
a1ephy
Dec 30, 20 at 3:24am
Cheer my guy. Here, have sum chips haha! Lolz https://pics.me.me/0-no-gf-chips-hell-yeah-37205831.png
gonebythenight
Everyone has a chance at finding someone but as cliche as it sounds: A relationship will not make you happy if you’re not happy already. If anything it has the potential of magnifying your problems as you’re no longer the only person having to deal with them. Pursue your own, independent happiness and I’m sure you’ll find someone along the way. :)
shinkutsume
@silverman1205 https://media1.tenor.com/images/f8f35d7dd9f1eebc66b7a9d2f5315076/tenor.gif?itemid=12948907 Believe me, you likely have more of a chance at finding a real relationship than many of the other people here on this site. It all depends on your expectations, and your willingness to put in effort, as any relationship requires effort from both sides to last normally, be it a friendship or a romance. One thing I like to say is, "Everyone starts off as a noob when it comes to anything, how long you stay a noob is mostly up to you." Also, part of the reason why you might be depressed about others being in relationships, is due to social media. Remember, people have a tendency to post only the extremes of their life on places like Facebook, so you only see snapshots of their happiest times, and their most depressing lows, and very little in-between, with most of the in-between being drowned out by the extremes as well. The same thing happens with voluntary product reviews, just look at any popular item on Amazon, tons of 5 star reviews, a good number of 1 star reviews, most of the time, very little in-between. You also should start thinking about ways to love yourself, as you cant really love anyone else to the fullest extent without first loving yourself. You might not like yourself right now, but remember who is in the most control of yourself and your path in life. You need to be the one that makes any real decisions in your life. Something to also keep in mind is that change usually doesn't happen overnight, so just because you made up your mind to change, doesnt make it a done deal immediately. Life goes on, we live we experience, we get hurt, we make mistakes, and we learn from everything so we can hopefully be better moving forward.
mugiwaramaster
If I can get a girl, so can you. Too bad that last girl was someone who I wanted to change for the better, but wanted to stay the same stubborn oaf for so long.
solid_snake95
Big dick energy. Foreal I know the feeling bruh. Tonight I felt the same way, and there is nothing wrong with that. Just have hope and try your best at not expecting anything. Easier said than done I know. "It happens when you least expect it" is what people tell me alot. I think it is true but takes alot of self love to make happen.
mountain_tiger
Chin up man, we all gotta start from somewhere. These things have to be learned through practice. The first thing I'd try to do if I were you is look up any organizations or groups local to your town. If any intersect with your interests, try to sign up. If you don't find a lover, you'll probably find some friends at least. If there's no groups or organizations to join, maybe try to find a business that provides a service related to your hobbies. You should probably focus on learning how to socialize and hold conversations before you go looking for love. Also, it might seem like a contradiction, but you shouldn't try to aggressively look for love. When people actively seek out love, they tend to become desperate and overlook potential future conflicts. Try to find a group of friends first, then let those friendships take you to future love. Just keep walking forward and you'll always be further than you started. o7
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