Do looks really matter?

Not to sound shallow or anything but yes looks do matter and imma explain why I actually dont want someone who is super pretty. I mean yesh they are nice to look at and aesthetically pleasing to the eyes. But its just my personal preference. It feels very much wasted on me, cuz i wouldnt be able to appreciate her beauty for what it is. Im sort of weird but i can appreciate a girl who is less pretty way more. They already dont get much love as it is. Now i can date almost anyone if we click or whatever but when i see a super pretty girl my mind doesnt go "wow" i might be like dang this girl is hot. But its like a different level or something. I would be more than happy with an average looking girl bonus points if chubby.

To a degree, yes it does. When people say looks don't matter - they're honestly complete liars. Being attracted to someone's physical appearance is a huge stepping stone to initiating something more romantic and/or sexual; once that step is done, the personality is what matters at that point. If someone has a lovely personality then great but there are plenty of attractive people that can be really shitty as well. Come for the looks, stay for who they are. In the case of a friend looks is less important but I'm more likely to talk to someone who keeps their appearance in order and actually tries to make themselves look presentable because I most certainly won't want to spend time with Uncle Bob who lives in a shady white van, parked outside a primary school and looks like he ain't groomed himself whatsoever in the past few years - have standards in your friends as well you know.

It is apparently in my area. You're not attractive enough then the single men won't even try for you. Reason why I'm single with bad luck with men in my area.

I feel like the truth is what is inside is what truly matters you need to have a chemistry and deep connection with the person inside over the person on the outside but you still need to have an attraction and chemistry with that person aswell. Its a balanced thing I believe so. Every now and then there are those rare individuals in the world that can see past the outer shell and come to solely love the person from who they are in the inside, I seen it before but even then I still think there is something that ties them to the person they are on the outside aswell. I feel like now and days a person's appearance is the fishing line that draws potential partners near them and from that alone begins to the adventure of discovering who that person is in the inside not just on the outside and finding out if you guys even are a good match together. Though I will always admit I am old fashioned and not a fan of the new way of dating I like the idea of becoming friends with someone and becoming so close to them that you slowly fall in love with that person even if they aren't your picture-perfect ideal person on the outside; still there is a charm and beauty in their looks in the way they are and mostly in who they are in the inside. But these kind of relationships are hard to form now and days because everyone chooses whether to reject or accept talking to someone solely based on their appearances, positions, what degrees or majors they do, all materialistic things. The new generations including ours are making it much a bigger pressure on all of us men and women and this whole swipe left swipe right shit is not benefitting us in the long run, it is just a disaster and we all tend to fall for this and become victims of it. It is a troublesome world really, I guess this is why I still hold onto that silly fantasy of falling in love naturally being friends first beyond anything.

Personality is far more important. For me as long as you are healthy, take care of your body and live an active lifestyle then that's all what matters.