Did I make a good decision when it came to a long term failing relationship?

The first time I was on here I was talking about my ex that was in Upstate,New York as me and her were hitting it off but the only problem is when I came back from North Carolina deciding that I wants to stay in New York and wanting to be with her she never came to see me...... I basically spent $200 to get back to New York City which was money that I did not have or had the funds for as family helped me get back to New York..... And it has been 8 months since October of last year as she has not seen me once besides on video chat.... She's been either dealing with personal problems or just letting others push her around getting what they want.... Me and her really did want to see each other but it just felt meaningless when every single time I wanted to see her I've shown how much I care about her and the fact that I spent money that I don't have on her and the fact that I was homeless and was willing to do anything to basically be with her...... I don't even know what to say because it's hard for me to wonder if me and her are compatible or not and what I did at the time was the right thing to do or the wrong thing to do because the fact that she feels that I wasted my time with her but she also feels like she wasted her own time and felt that I made her look like a joke because of every single time I wanted to be with her but she didn't really take much of what I was saying seriously in the ways of wanting to be with her and wanting to see her as the fact that I was going through a lot after everything that I've been through..... What do you guys think?

i feel ya bro -- long distance relationships suck; it's better to avoid them

Long distance relationships can be a trap sometimes just be careful who you get with. If she made you feel that way then she obviously worth your time :)

Don't you mean she's not worth my time because the fact that I wasted $200 and right now she feels like I treated this relationship like a joke..... I waited so long to see her and this month is the anniversary of when our twins died within her....

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2MOP03V7hrI Its not a waste of time because you both knew what you were getting into and chose to be in such a relationship. Its a lesson and experience. The real waste of time is the regret that you feel right now when you could convince her that your serious or choose to move on with your life.

My first relationship was long distance and didn't work, but I don't think I regret trying at all.The second started out the same but then she moved to where I was and was great for a long time....till she left. But what I'm saying here is if you still feel like trying then that is what you have to do. You also might just have to out right tell her that you feel that way and let things explode. What's going to happen will happen one way or another down the road.

It been 8 years since I've known her, we had it on and off relationship things did not work out especially the fact that I done basically everything that I could try to make sure the relationship either stays together or last longer than it did. She said type that would say okay if the relationship if I ever broke up with her because she feels that she is either a waste of time or she doesn't feel like arguing about things. She always feels that I wasted my time with her even when I felt that she was super tired of me. I still care about her even when I try to remove her from my life.