I usually end up not being able to continue a convo because i run out of things to talk about or i dont want to make things awkward by saying something stupid. Help?
Talking with people should not be forced. If you have something in common with person you are talking and both parties want to continue talking it should go naturally.
I would say that first you need to find out what kind of person you are talking with. That person talks a lot or listens a lot. Then you could adjust to that.
Best way to continue conversation is by giving questions to the other person. Just don't spam only questions. Start with one and watch where it goes. Can you make a topic out of it? Can you add something from your life to it. If the topic becomes dry. Try another question. As long as questions are not boring you should be fine. And best way to improve your ability to make and keep conversations going is by practising a lot.
Damn, Creature of Habit basically beat me to what I was going to say. :u
⊙▽⊙What a coincidence...I started to read stuff about talking to others again...sigh....
In fact, I'm fairy good at having long and deep conversations with like-minded people...But those conversations are always serious and slightly impersonal hah. Exchange of information and insights...I have countless topics in my head←_←...however I'm not sure if strangers can get them...Detached...
Asking questions is important..but once if you ask a wrong person many questions, they might think you are interrogating them...
My aim is to be a person who can communicate with ALL rather than simply with scholars, nerds, geeks and truth seekers.
^_^Some points in the book I agree with:1.be confident
2.learn to express your feelings....
3.be a good listener
However, if the other side isn't willing to talk to you....all efforts will be in vain.
I always find it helps to mix up conversation with other activities, such as games or sports. There's also people on here who communicate with pictures and memes! Or perhaps a shared hobby, such as art.
Just show interest in what the other person is talking about. comment on what they say, ask questions and so on. If it's something they're passionate about they'll be glad to have someone to listen and will talk for ages about it. Trying to be a good listener works most of the time for me anyway, though maybe not so much in the long run.
I can relate to something Enki said, about sometimes having the feeling I'm transforming the conversation into an interrogation.
In the past I wasn't very conscious about that part.
For me it is the opposite, I have trouble starting conversations more than carrying them on. I find once a conversation starts up asking open ended questions that leave room for the other person to say what they want is a good way to go. Also just take the time that you need to respond and don't rush would be my advice for not making a conversation accidentally awkward.
Well I talk the same as everyone... I first go to there profile, click send message and then message them, 'SEND FEET' and then they respond.... (joking in case someone can't detect British humour ;D)