Girls only like jerks (stop using this excuse, grow a pair and read on)

I think being more confident is nice, but i also think it's good to just be who you are. I have been like this for my entire life, but now i'm slowly gaining confidence and improving my social skill, even though deep down inside i'm still the same person.

Well, yeah. You should always be who you are but confidence doesn't really change that and not saying you have to be confident which is why I said to take advice with a grain of salt :P it's there but doesn't mean it needs to be followed. I mean I'm not a confident person at all. Always second guessing myself, or how I look, how I act but I want to work on that stuff to better myself for myself.

Fox, so let me paraphrase you just to make sure I'm understanding what you're saying... Are you really criticizing guys that are motivated in life and have goals? And in turn, the girl that likes that type of guy is devoid of personality... because she's interested in a guy that has... goals in life? Am I REALLY understanding this correctly? THIS is what you're saying? You're condemning a person to be empty on the inside... because they want to be... successful in life? Is this honestly what you're saying? Does this mean in order for me as an empty shell (because I have goals in life) to attract women with personality, I should abandon everything I've worked for, do nothing with my life, have no personal goals, and NOT talk about the things that interest me to find out if the girl has the same interests? These are some of your EXACT words. IF this is what you're saying, I'll make sure to make these changes in my life. This would explain why I'm single.

Fox, the amount of hypocrisy you're uttering boggles my mind, so you can have the last word because I honestly don't care how you want to justify your views. I just wanted to make sure I was interpreting your views correctly... and with your response, I was. Can you show me (rhetorically, since I'm not gonna reply) the comments from us shallow men where we precede opinions by saying it's the ONLY thing that matters? I mean, it's almost as if you took some suggestions out of context... Me, as a shallow man, that does nothing but talk about my success stories in life, is incapable of comprehending your personal validations of men and women you know nothing about... yet you have the ability and wisdom of distinct perception to know who I am as an individual in life because of the 1 or 2 posts I've made in this thread. You've even been able to peer into my personal life and everything I've gone through to be able to tell me specifically why I'm single despite the fact that, y'know, we've never had a conversation. Got it.

I've never dated a jerk - but my friends who have all learned to move on from that kind of guy. I've only seen middle-school kids (or girls that haven't grown up since middle school) date jerks. I'm more into take-charge guys that typically are more invested in their careers than social life.