Breaking Up

For those who have been in relationships and have had the fortunate/unfortunate experience of them ending, what are some common methods you use to help alleviate the situation? What are some things you feel you do that negatively affect you when breaking up?

Well, I have broken up with a few lass' in my day. Ultimately what it came down to was commitment. If they weren't committing to the relationship in the same way after a few months. I had to make an assessment. Then I just followed through and openly stated why. I will admit one time i tried to break up with the same girl 9 times. She started using her health and life as a weapon. Mostly that is just a ploy of control. Just stick to your guns and end an unhealthy relationship. Nothing about a break up is fun. It doesn't really make any happy immediately. It takes time to help you. And the only thing to do when to alleviate the situation, is simply leave afterwards. The longer you are there the harder it gets. Never break up over text, phone, or anyother way aside from in person.

One thing I find helps immensely in the wake of a breakup is talking to people close to you about it. I had a pretty recent breakup and what really helped get me out of a funk with it was talking to my friends about it. They really helped put things in perspective and helped me feel a lot less bad about it than I was feeling.

I have the habit to letting the relationship continue even though I'm not interested anymore (I become very indifferent). I just slowly stop responding or being socially active with them. So when I have a break-up it is slow, I guess I wait for the person to get a clue. :/

iv always had the habit of crawling back after a break up (even when i was the one to break up) but im happy to be staying strong for once :3 time mends all wounds

Honestly, I think what's the point of feeling depressed, crying and eating a tub of ice cream over a break up. Sure, you supposedly loved that person, but apparently something was happening to push you both apart. So, just live and let go, too many good people cry over abusive people, whether it be mentally or physically. Something made you too grow apart, it happens, just learn from this relationship and live your life.

Whether I chose it or they did, it never feels good to sever someone who was dear to you from your life. I usually try to face my feelings, allow myself to feel whatever it is I am feeling, but not let it affect my actions. Then I focus on a hobby or I work on something that I neglected in the relationship- Work on self. A habit of mine is to well up with self doubt. I tend to start thinking that I am not worth the trouble or considering that I was never in love. Whether or not that may or may not be true does not matter though. We all have to learn to exist on our own and be happy in our own company. The solution is always to focus on what you have instead of what you don't have.

food, friends, music, watching anime, dancing, singing, and virtual games. those are the things i do after break up. trying to stay strong and positive because i know breaking up in a relationship is not the end of your life. but an experience to learn from and to avoid in the future relationship with a new lover. ^^

Watching anime, because anime solve every problem. The people don't like talking our problem, or ex lovers, but always had an anime character who know our feelings.