Is it worse to be a meek dormat or a conceited blowhard?

Do you believe humility or arrogance is worse in excess? And why did you give the answer you gave? An argument can be mode for both. It's tiresome dealing with either when ya think about it. On the one hand being too humble and accommodating will get you little respect. And it makes for quite a boring person because they don't challenge you. They rarely stand their ground. Their constant elevation of your feelings and opinions over their own don't really give you much to think about. A human echo chamber... On the other hand someone who always talks and acts like they are the best around and puts others down is annoying. It can also make for quite an ignorant person as such people many times act incapable of reflecting on their own flaws. On more than one occasion I've seen these types disparage anyone who calls them on their bs. Your thoughts? Also for fun would you say you are too arrogant, too humble, or a nice mix of both?

Conceited blow hard is worse I'm perceived as a meek dormat. What they don't know is I know what I'm worth to myself. I don't need someone to put a value on me. I pretend to be a dormat to help build up people's confidence. When they become conceited booty faces then I bark down some throat.

i dont think im either or maybe a balance of both but sometimes one or the other shows up more. I think everyone has some kind of complex or insecurities to themselves. They just show it differently. I don't want to be someone people can walk on but i also want to be a confident person. That's just me talking and trying to reach that goal when i'm perfectly happy with myself. I don't think anyone can ever reach that level, if they do? good on them but i think we're always somewhat unsatisfied with ourselves but we work around it. Arrogance can be ok as long as you can back it up, but what I want most is respect and knowing my own flaws to work with them. :P or maybe im just indecisive lmao

Wrong, then again who am I to talk? I'm considered a very humble conceited girl by most people but that doesn't mean I can't fight for myself. I'm considered a girl that's very indifferent with her surroundings which is true. I'm very weird in this sense because in no way I'm passive or I just let other people do whatever they want, I just don't care about them or what they do unless they are somehow in my way, they usually aren't. So I think that maybe, judging a person because of how they act is very out of question, you never know who they truly are and the way they've been forced to act. Has it worked for me? Personally yes, socially speaking probably no. It's their choice. I'm arrogant but people don't know it, I'm very passionate but people see me as a boring person. Who cares? Aren't I free this way? Don't blame how they act for how uninterested you seem to be about them. Is better to be someone you can actually see who they are instead of someone who pretends, and neither of those do, that is, also part of who they are.

I am probably a mixture leaning more towards a doormat. Having said that, I understand what you mean about either one being bad. I can be angered more quickly by arrogant people than doormats though. There's nothing more annoying than someone who is completely full of themselves and don't realize their own hubris. Oh and to add.. a person can be humble without being a doormat. A person can be humble and proud of something they have or are good at without coming off as conceited. It just depends on if the person is an asshole or not.

I understand that Veru, which is why I was clear to include the words "in excess" most people are not too much of either but many still are. And Maria, no I do not believe that judging a person by their actions is wrong, just as the soil is only good for the plant that can grow inside it, so too is a person's insides only valuable for how they manifest outside action. For example, I can believe myself a thoughtful charitable person who cares for others but if I constantly ignore everyone's problems and never donate any time or money to anything that doesn't suit me then my beliefs are unfounded. Or to put it another way If a guy wanted to date you because he considers himself a nice caring intelligent and funny person but during his time with you he acted like a douche, never stopped talking about himself, had nothing interesting or thoughtful to say, and every word out of his mouth made you want to groan then I doubt you'd be interested in seeing if there was a gem of a guy underneath all that. If you act like an ass then expect to be treated like an ass. And anyway you cannot control how people see you... Because as batman once said: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sri6qN4ud_g

And I will blame how they act for my interest in them. If they carried themselves like an interesting person then I'd likely be more interested in them.

Anything in excess is bad, whatever that thing may be. But to stick to your original question, I think being excessively arrogant is worse because you inconvenience or affect more people negatively, whereas if you're excessively humble, you more or less are only hurting yourself. :) I've been guilty of being a conceited blowhard especially on things I feel are my expertise pertaining to school and work. I get carried away easily and become really obsessive and aggressive with my ideas, especially when I'm around people who don't seem to know the subject matter that much. Likewise, I also have a tendency to be the meekest of all meek doormats around my seniors or those I believe are more experienced and knowledgeable than I am in their fields. To the point that even if what they're saying and/or doing are complete and obvious BS, I tend to give in and give way because I don't want to trouble them or embarrass them much.

@ringo_blue took the words right out of my mouth.

Doormats are boring. If nothing else, there's some satisfaction to be found in seeing an arrogant person fail. What are you going to say to someone that's always humble? They contribute literally nothing. As it is, I already feel pretty good about myself, I don't need a doormat. As for myself, I'm probably more on the arrogant side. I don't go around boasting to everybody I see, but if I think I know or do something well, I'll make it known to those around me. If it turns out I'm actually an idiot then I'll hold that, too.