Well my guy cheated on me...

A relationship is as real as the two in said relationship want it to be. There doesn't have to be a physical touch (Though, I couldn't do long distance. To each their own.) for it to be a relationship. I will agree that the dynamics can drastically change upon meeting, but if two people are strong and honest, it can remain strong. But, honestly, odds are against you...

Post: Well my guy cheated on me... So I had a best friend of mine pretend to be a girl, but he's really a guy and my guy took the flirts he threw at him and made big advances on my friend. Even though he didn't even know he was a guy...He was a real idiot without seeing a picture and kept hitting on my friend...What a sicko...Turns out he's nothing but, a big creeper! ;~; My Response: Depending on how long you were in the relationship. Of course his eyes will begin to wander, either you keep your guy on a leash, or let him roam freely. Thing is about the online world, you can't see if a guy is cheating or not. So you gave the dog a toy to hump for a bit to determine your status. You doubted the relationship, this is why you created such a trap. If you truly wanted the relationship to last, you should of leashed him, and made sure this relationship lasted. 1) You let a guy, flirt better then you. 2) You set the trap, obvious outcome was going to happen. 3) You should of played your cards better.

@Jigzy: I say if he cheated, than he isn't worth your time. ^u^ So, stay strong and find a new love. :D

Elric's assessment isn't necessarily wrong. Ultimately her method and approach did work, and it may or may not have been the right way to go about doing it. Unfortunately, that really isn't something we can agree on. In regards to leashing someone....I think ultimately there is a pro and con to this. The term just falls back on older times when women were supposed to be stay at home wives and domestically everything was there job. So if you had your husband "leashed" or in a mentality to where all he wanted to do once he got off work was come home and be pampered by his wife, then you were a successful woman. It isn't necessarily untrue now. Realistically speaking the term just applies to both men and women now. We as individuals both need to do our best to invest ourselves into our partners so that they feel loved and appreciated. There is nothing fundamentally wrong with the concept since people have needs and as a partner it is our job to fill those needs to the best of our ability. If you feel like you did everything that was realistically comfortable for you to do as a partner...then you should have no regrets, cast off the dead weight, and move on. If you feel that you were lacking...not feeling lacking because of something someone told you, but you genuinely feel like you could have done more and something comes to mind, then you should introspect on that..and figure out why you feel that way. If it ends up being a valid thing you'd like to change, then change it. If it ends up being silly, then cast off that doubt like you would any other dead weight thought. Relationships can sometimes just be chances for us to look at ourselves in the light of a "provider" or a "caregiver" and discover how we need to improve ourselves. Think on it, or TL;DR it. ~Tessa

People stop analyzing the poor girl this hurts her probably alooot...but Jigzy listen if he cheated on you than he never really cared bout you and you shouldnt worry about im speaking from my own experience itll hurt for awhile bur than look back n say u want he was douche n he didn't deserve me anyway so cheer up :-)

Im not bashing you i was trying to make you feel better sorry if it come off as bashing all i was trying to say was ive been there and itll hurt fir abit but one day youll look back and realize he missed out because he wasnt serious about you...

Oh heh my bad i know its not right for them to analyze you like that and judge you....its a really sensitive subject....oh n btw those of you who tell her online isn't a real realationship a relationship is a realationship whether online or irl they should both treated equally an online realationship is meant to establish a realationship to have irl