Well my guy cheated on me...

AAAAANNNNNNNNNDDDDDDDD She deleted her posts. Ugh I just can't stand cowards who do stuff like this, just because things aren't going their way.

Well I don't know what she said for some of you guys to even say she deserved it... :D So I'm just gonna reply to the original comment.. -reads other comments first- so apparently cheating is only as bad as lacking trust nowadays? I'd love to see you in a situation where you doubt somebody's loyalty, heh... Break it off straight away? Well, some can't without seeing the proof firsthand. Yeah, guys, setting up traps like that isn't nice but actually getting caught up in them is far worse. Just because you love somebody doesn't mean that you trust them unconditionally. Unless you're very naive you won't be able to help noticing once signs of unfaithfulness are showing. She probably already had a strong feeling that he was cheating and knew the outcome very much herself but didn't want to believe it. This was probably the last straw she was holding on to. Maybe her friends even talked her into it... I sure would if I saw a friend dating a cheater but still staying with him. It was the eye opener she needed to cut off this senseless relationship. Saying that her behaviour was what provoked his unfaithfulness is just the ol' victim blaming again. You either are a cheater in or not. This applies no matter what gender. And to the person who said "Keep your guy on a leash." I prefer to not think of my partners like dogs. Leashing somebody up is even worse than testing them. It proves stronger trust issues than the former because it means you already entered the relationship with the mindset that your partner would cheat on you anytime the chance would arise. If you can't be faithful without said leash... Why the fuck are you in a committed relationship anyway? If you wanna sleep around, go do it. Make sure to protect yourself from them STDs. But don't expect to get a trusting partner as a bonus while doing it.

we arent blaming her for him cheating, we are blaming her for being untrustworthy just like her boyfriend, her boyfriends morals havent been brought into question because nobody disagree's that he was a shitty boyfriend, the point is, she DID do something shitty where she could have handled it in so many other ways, confront him, break it off ect ect, i would never want to be with someone who would do something so conniving, this post would be very different if she had said ''yeah i understand what i did was shitty, i accept it'' but she didnt, she pushed any criticism she got to the side, labeled it ''wrong'' and called everyone who tried to offer advice or criticism of her actions as an ''asshole'' the intentions or reason for doing it dont matter, its not acceptable to cheat in a relationship, sometimes the person cheating has their reasons and finds them good enough for it to be acceptable to cheat, does this mean that it is therefore ok for the person to cheat? no, of course not, the same goes for the OP, her actions show her to be untrustworthy, sneaky and conniving, she may have had a justification for doing what she did, does that make it any less reprehensible? no!