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Are woman better at dealing with loneliness?

arc
I too have made the same realization as the guy in the article you linked. Actively pursuing and flirting with women with extreme care and thought no longer interests me. I just hate all of the smoke and mirror games dating has. But then again, women are never just going to throw themselves at you, so you have to at least try or you might end up alone forever. Women more or less prefer to be pursued. That is how things have always been in nature.
yunoxyukki
Yeah what im saying lol
darkschneider
The guy that wrote that article sounds like a blue pill man that became a purple pill man. There are many men especially 30+ that took the red pill and became MGTOW after being screwed over by bad women never to look back. MGTOW or Men Going Their Own Way is the western analog of The herbivore men of Japan who do not date or even associate with women sometimes, just focus on themselves. The guys advice is sound, get your own life in order, become interesting, and you will meet interesting people along the way. I can relate to his dislike to PUA. I am too genuine and did not like doing it either. It is also emotionally damaging to men and especially women who play the game. One of my best friends was a smooth PUA who just had the natural talent and looks for it. He had to seriously work on himself later to be able to have a normal relationship after losing the girl of his dreams. Dating takes practice but do not make it a sport.
mr233242
Well idk really but i think they r better but hell i think its how u r raised tbh cause ive been that way my whole life
sadjester
@Redd: Interesting statements. Yes, it makes sense that the 70/30 ration would be conducive to more competition. @verucassault: The article does make a valid point. It seems to be a trend that more and more guys are disconnecting from the "dating game". Certain men do play a part in ruining the dating experience for other men by being "players". I wouldn't blame some women for being cynical after being mistreated by aforementioned men. There are a lot of guys though that wouldn't misuse a relationship just for the gratification of physical pleasure. Though even being able to have the option of disconnecting from dating is seen as a privilege by some. Like guys that haven't had the opportunity of going on a date in the first place. I'm not sure if there are a lot of women who struggle to such a degree with loneliness.
takkun87
In my experience, I prefer being single. I just do whatever I want on my own time and not have to have any consequences of being lazy, spending much of my free time in the gym and on the computer, and eating all the food, sharing it with none other than myself. As long as I've gym and food, I'm a happy camper.
kesakitty
Really each person is different in handling loneliness... Like in my experience if I get lonely, I brush it off mostly or try to hang out with friends (the ones I don't really have :/ except online ones..) Online gaming is win! If I get extremely lonely I find myself falling for people I never looked at before. I start to settle as they say, but really that is the worst. NEVER SETTLE! It wont be pleasant for you. I've been single for over 5 years now...NOT BY CHOICE! I just don't settle, and as sad and lonely as I might get at times, I keep that in mind. Go for my goals and dreams and push through for myself. Truth be told as a girl, loneliness has wrecked me plenty, and I could cry myself to sleep, but I try not to let my loneliness change my views or dreams, then its more destructive. Keep up the good fight men...and even women ^.^
metaljester
I will give my personal viewpoint first, here as far as being single goes for me, its a neutral position, I am not actively pursuing finding somebody, Now with that out of the way, Gender doesn't matter at least biologically what does matter is societal expectations forced on each gender, media and many other environmental factors create the illusion that women handle loneliness better then men but its simply that, @Arc somewhat true as well, @Redd If you wouldn't mind I would like to see the research cited on that statement just for verification, @Veruca whilst the article does make some interesting points, it would be better to browse some proper research on the subject at hand, let me point you to one. https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=XoryyYIAAAAJ&hl=en&oi=sra The one for ,settling for less out of fear of being single, is the article I would suggest,
verucassault
yeah I think I like my article better. Lol You're comparing a personal experience article to a research project. I think it's interesting but a little cold in matters of the heart, no?
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