This girl is too good for me. Advice?

Have you ever had the feeling when you're trying to look for a girlfriend and you happen across a girl that is obviously out of your league? This happened to me when I randomly chatted up this girl on OK Cupid because she had a Miku cosplay pic. I didn't think too much about it but we started talking back and fourth. Here are her traits: -sexy as hell; mix of Asian/white -cosplays -her job is being a model. Her JOB -she loves playing video games -she was a cheerleader -virgin Me: -spends most of life in front of computer screen -....virgin Originally I had no problem smooth talking her and being funny, but after I found out all this about her something in the back of my mind is telling me she is waaaay out of my league. No way a loser can get a girl like that. She could snap her fingers and have any guy she wants. Negative thoughts I'm not used to. It makes me nearvous, and I'm afraid it will throw me off my game with her. How can I shake these feelings off and keep talking to her normally?

Well the worst thing that can happen is she rejects you then doesn't speak with you but you coukd ask her out and say if you don't like me that way then can we just be friends or something along those lines its obvious that you like her man and because you do try your luck you might get with her :]

There's no such thing as "leagues". There's people who are into you and people who aren't. The idea of classifying people into who can date who just has no basis in reality. We date people as a whole person so the question you should be asking is what do you bring to the table? You only put as your con that you spend a lot of time in front of a computer, but doing what? What does being in front of a computer all day say about you? Like, for example, are you trying to find a job or are you just watching anime all day? A slacker trying to avoid adult responsibilities is pretty universally unattractive, a person with ambition and drive is. Anyways, long rant. Just don't get hung up on any kind of league or point system for dating. It just doesn't mean anything in real life. Who you are as a whole person means more than any fancy job, house, looks, or whatever.

Have you two met? Can you prove her background that she told you about ONLINE? Also, no one is better than anyone. Some do things differently or become financially successful, but at the end of the day we are all flesh and blood humans. Instead of worrying, meet up already. She wouldn't chat with you if she didn't want to or have some sort of an interest. Did you ever think she may be nervous of you too? Just go for it and regret nothing, success or failure. It's better than wondering "What if?".

I think the first thing to do is get out of this mentality that value-judges people and categorizes them based on things like their hobbies, or what they do for a living, or whether they used to be a cheerleader or not. Unless you're a bad *person* (Read: One who callously hurts other people, etc.) then the idea that she's "too good" for you based on arbitrary criteria is needlessly self-limiting. The second thing to do is, if this girl seems "too good" for you because she's good-looking, a model, was a cheerleader, and plays videogames, then perhaps, rather than lament the fact that she does all this and you "spend most of life in front of computer screen," it might be a good call to start doing more, but before you do that, take a moment and think about everything you do. Assess yourself, try to look at yourself objectively, and figure out if you really do need to do more with yourself, or if you're just being hard on yourself because you're a nerd talking to a cute girl. If you do all that and you find that you don't have much going for you, then maybe you need to get out more and do more with yourself. Or, at the very least, there are a number of highly productive things you can accomplish from in front of a computer screen.

I'll play devil's advocate. If she is way out of your league and can get any guy she wants, why is she on an online dating website? Do a little research and find out if the person is actually the real deal and not some catfish you know? Better safe than sorry but I hope it is actually the real deal for you and everything works out for the best ^^

I do realize that no people are "better" than others, but I am growled in the reality that this woman has a lot of desireability. I also do realize the possibility that she could be lying on one of more of those things. All I have to go on are sexy pictures. If she is lying, it would be compensation for something that doesn't need compensating. Between kendo and things I just have to get done on the computer, I don't have much time for other hobbies. The main problem I have is that she is TOO attractive and I sound like an idiot when I try to talk to a girl I'm crushing hard on. It might help if I pretend she is lying out of insecurity, though.

The more you talk about her the more fake she sounds. I mean a cosplay model on OKcupid who is a virgin?? and she was a cheerleader, and she plays video games? first of all a cheerleader who is a virgin? How old is this girl?? Come on!!! I think thats some person pulling a fast one on people.

Thus, ya don't play message or text tag. Meet up or stop daydreaming. If she plays around or is flaky about a simple cup of coffee, there's your answer. Dating sites like ok cupid, are set up to send a messsge, short and sweet, get a number and meet. This should all be done within a week or two of initial contact. How do I know? I used that site in the past and had no problems getting numbers....I will admit, the meet up were slim compared to getting numbers, but I still managed. Anyways. .. You don't know her, you're setting yourself up to fail by failing before you even start. I honestly think "she" sounds a bit fishy by what you've said, but just ask her to meet up and see what happens...or you could play games.