Fake Friendliness

So I have a serious question; would you ever make any kind of attempt of being "friendly" towards a person you can actually stand seeing in pain and not care if he/she is in pain? In my opinion, if you can feel that way about a person, you should just leave them alone. I would care if a random stranger on the street is in pain. So if you dislike someone to the point that you would not give a crap if they're feeling some sort of discomfort, then shouldn't you just leave them alone instead of trying to hand off fake friendliness? A girl told me that's how she feels about my boyfriend and I politely asked her to leave him alone once I found out she paved a way of contact with him. I would be fine if she genuinely wants to be his friend but I'm not okay with her feeling that way towards him. I guess its the mama bear inside me, but I don't want someone talking to him if they feel that way. And honestly, she shouldn't want to talk to him at all if she feels that way. Of course she took it over board and assumed that her talking to him in general bothered me instead of realizing that it was because of how she truly feels about him.

Agreed. I hate fakeness, if you don't like me, be upfront and honest and just tell me, and a why would be great but not needed. Ive been out of high school for 12 years now, if you don't like me, I'm not going to cry about it, with that said, a person faking nice, passive agressive, or otherwise childish is just something I cannot stand.

Hate fakeness? Have you never said the obligatory "Hi, how are you?" without actually caring? We all pretend to be cordial for the sake of society.But, someone being fake while pretending to be my friend, that's a huge no no.

Fake friendliness is all around the workplace because people have to work with eachother every day. In some instances it is better to act friendly even though you don't feel like interacting with others. I think it's only appropriate if you have to interact with the other person on a regular basis. I'm a friendly person in general so it's not like I fake my feelings anyways.

Well with me it is an odd difference. I am never fake, I am always honest, I will tell them I really dislike you. But even if I would be mentally fine with seeing them in pain, or possibly even get pleasure from it, I would try to help them if they let me. That's just how I am. I truly are about those I do not even like, Just because of my morals alone. If I dislike the person I'll ignore them unless they need help, I won't fake 'hey I like you or how are you doing' But I will be polite. Though I rather just ignore their existence all together if possible.

Arc and Leo bring up good points. Its just easier to be somewhat kind/polite to people, even if you're not that keen on them. No point creating drama when there doesn't need to be. It could just make things stressful later on. You have to take it case by case though I guess.

Fake friendliness... That's a toughy... I generally feel nothing towards anyone I don't know. So if I'm walking down the street and I see that someone fell and dropped their stuff, I don't feel bad for them. I also don't feel good. But because I was taught to help those in need, I would offer my help. I call it common courtesy or mutual respect. I don't have to like you in order to respect you. My mom's ex husband, for example. I hate that man with all my heart and soul, but I do respect him because he did help raise me and my older brother. Now as for people I don't know, they all get the same common courtesy. I'll hold doors, let people ahead of me if I'm taking a while, I may even give someone a dollar if they ask me, but if you were to ask me why, it's because I can.

Well thanks for your views guys. I appreciate the feed back. But I guess I was wondering more towards if you actually know and dislike the person. Not commom courtesy.

Asshat, if someone doesn't like me and they say "Hi, how are you.", I wouldn't bother acknowledging them. If I don't know them, or dont know they're being fake, I wouldn't have a reason not to say hi back. If I say "hi, how are you?", there is a point of caring, otherwise I just wouldn't bother saying it.