Personality or looks????

both ^^ when it comes to romance. but you know even biologically it's ingrained in most men's minds that a small waist is attractive to men because it shows the woman is healthy. thats the history of attraction. it has always been attractive also when you look good it means you take good care of yourself and that you love yourself. men will see that and naturally want to come talk to you. as for personality jsut dont spend too much time on primping! you will lose your personality if you concentrate on that too much! be yourself ^^

I think Marii is party correct. When you take care of yourself and present youself as confident it also displays healthy in my opinion, because a confident person is a healthy person in my eyes. The slim waist thing is not fully correct in my opinion because human natur says a woman are meant to have thick butts and/or waist for reproduction purposes. Its meant to be a protective asset for your body. In my opinion on what I prefer, I have to be attracted to someone physically to want a relationship with them. Im not saying its all that matters cause more times than not I've had problems with a girls personality than looks. I dont have any prefrence for race or nationality, to me if I fond a womans personality and looks attractive than I could care less what their blood background is.

its total bs for anyone to say i dont care about looks, as I always tell people, we all have a level of what we can accept so yes looks matter - its jsut a difference on our levels of what is acceptable or not. can you date a person with just a head and a chest with tentacles for legs and arms? and whos face is covered in boils? personality, we all care about that as well. no matter how hot you are, if we just dont get along... its just not gonna work out. they both are important. and theres no such bs that its just one or the other. to win a person you have to satisfy both.

I definitely have to be physically attracted to someone to date them. Doesn't mean personality doesn't play a part in the equation, it does to a great amount. But well most times you notice someone, its their looks, before you ever get a chance to talk to them. But also, once the physical attraction kicks in, if their personailty doesnt mesh with mine, its quickly over. Why waste either of out time, unless its just a convienence thing for both of us.

^ I tried a similar theory to that out in Anime Expo yesterday. I'd left to Little Tokyo for lunch and met up with another little party of Con-goers. We spoke about the anime universes and stuff, and the guy I was conversing with just kept staring at my legs. o.o I don't think my intelligence/personality/humor mattered at all there. xD

Eh, this is a difficult question to answer. Seeing as it's different for every person, and you can't quite explain it. For me, no one was really attracted to me in middle school except this chubby, black boy who kept harassing me to date the guy, but I'm sure it's just because of looks in his case since I barely spoke a word to the guy before he asked me to be his girlfriend. High-school, I only ever had friends crush on me and normally they were female or the reason why was because of my personality. Perhaps you should try getting a bit more confident in yourself, and step up to the plate of confessing your feelings to someone you like first when you're sure of yourself and not so self conscious. You could be giving off some weird vibe that tells people you're not interested? Either way, looks versus personality varies on person to person and no one is going to agree one of those over-looks the other. (Sorry for long reply ^^U)

Really I've learned in my 20 years of life if you want something for you go get it push your self to do it and it will usually happen. If you need help a long the way there will be friends and people to help you if it's help with losing weight getting healthy being confident or making new friends it always helps to have people there to help push you. As for relationships it certainly doesn't hurt to look the way you feel you should as it will give you more confident and make you better able to talk to people and feel comfortable but if you can feel comfortable. I always try and work to make my self better the more you have to offer people the better chance you have of attaining things. This all to say do what you feel is best for you and that guys should like you for you no matter what you look like but if you aren't happy with your self and this goes for anyone people can feel that and a lot of the time that is what is unappealing. It effects everything how you carry your self how you act sometimes how you dress and what you feel your limitations are. I hope some of this has been helpful and I hope things start turning up for you my friend. Don't worry I haven't had one girl friend ever but I never give up and nether should you just go out and be the best you that you can be.

Looks definitely play a part more so than most people realize. But the number 1 trait that gets more pull than looks is confidence. This is repeated a lot here, but the thing is, if you aren't very vocal about your interests and who you are, then all you have left is your looks. If this is what people see, then that's what matters. In order to get noticed, you can't hold back who you are. I've learned that my fear of being disliked kept me from making any friends until after I graduated high school. That was lonely for me. I'm a descent looking guy, but people avoided me because I gave them a bad vibe, when I was really just shy. Take risks and don't be afraid of rejection. I know this is easier said than done, but once you can take the first step, its a matter of time before you are moving in the right direction. this is a pretty popular topic- hope this advice helps someone.

hmm id say a combo of both (as a lover of 2d girls i think i can comment too ^^)but if ur personality is good enough itll prevail XP

you cant choose one or the other you meet or approach people by their physical attributes and then check their personality. the only way personality would win its if both parties knew each other already and weren't attracted at all and by constant interaction or some other factor they develop a liking to each other. I think this will sound pretty harsh but love at first sight does not exist, only physical attraction and only some people have the will to maintain their appearance to have that happened to them. Other than in my personal opinion at the end personality its better not because i dont have looks or anything like that but i dont think anybody would like to be with someone with great looks that didnt have a great personality but thats just me.