Problems defining your own sexuality?

Romantically, I always have been attracted to just women. Never felt a nick of romantic attraction towards guys. But sexual attraction, that's a different story. Even though not as common as attraction towards women, I have felt sexual attraction towards guys several times before, sometimes there's even this "fluctuating" period if you understand. So this has always confused me and actually stresses me quite a lot. In short. I have no idea what the fuck am I.

Just so you know, this is not abnormal. In fact very few people are strictly heterosexual. There are certain degrees of bisexuality. It is possible that you are just bisexual but tend to prefer females. :) You shouldn't stress about this, it's actually pretty normal though some people would like to not acknowledge it.

That is probably for the best. But the fact that I'm not attracted romantically to men can cause some misunderstandings if I use the term bisexual.

I am heterosexual. I am also comfortable enough with my sexual orientation to be able to look at a guy and be like "Yeah, hes pretty cute." And not be attracted to him. As far as your situation goes, it takes time sometimes to figure out who you are. Dont rush it, just let nature take its course. You will understand who you are in time. In the meantime, I am a little confused. You say youre sexually attracted towards men, but not women. Does that mean you would hook up with a guy even though youre not attracted romantically to him in order to feel and keep that attraction towards men, or do you avoid ot all together? Kinda personal, I know, but it could explain some things.

I've been into sexually active relationships with both sexes. But when I was with a man it was just sexual pleasure, no soul, no love unlike when I was with a woman.

I think the biggest thing problem that can happen is feeling the need to label what you feel. There is nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to either gender or feeling romantically of one over the other. You know what you like and that's all that should really matter. You are you and that's all that matters.

Sounds like you just wanna put your tootsie roll in whatever you can~ But on a serious note, I can understand how you feel. I've been in a relationship with a guy and I didn't feel as strongly about him as I did a female, so things didn't last long. I never engaged in anything sexual with a guy, but I will admit, like Jiko said, that I will call a guy cute or hot. The first time it happened to me (the dating the guy thing) I didn't know what to do, and afraid of being judged, but in reality, nobody cares who or what you like, and the ones who do care are none of your business and ignorant. You could possibly be romantically attracted to them as well, but unconsciously afraid of being judged for it, so you're rejecting it without noticing (pretty much how I felt at first) You could also just go for the middle ground as well and go for a tranny, you'll get the best of both worlds. You're romantically attracted to females, and just physically attracted to humans in general. But in the end, you are you, as much as you change who you are, you'll always be you, so try not to stress over things like this, best to just accept it IMO It may help to talk to a close friend or family member about it as well, since letting things out really help get them weights off your back. Like when you ask a girl out, you're wondering if you'll be accepted or rejected, and if they accept, that weight is dropped

I've received so much rejection and scorn for other reasons so I don't think a fear of that. And I already discussed this with my sister, she said I'm too tied in my little world and that I should go out more to find my true self. The question still remains but at least a lot of the stress is gone thanks to her advice. Also, there might be some truth to your first statement, hahaha!

This may be insensitive. But honestly, just go have sex with a male, and than a female. Compare which you liked better. Or you just like both!