Friends with this girl...

So guys. I will try to explain my situation the best I can. So I have been friends with this girl I know for some time. We have been officers of similar clubs and helped each other out. I did not realize I had these feelings until a year ago. The problem is that a few years ago she was going out with one of my friends. That relationship did not last due to peer pressure and other things about 3 months ago. Anyway, now that she is single I was wondering if I should confess to her. Currently I have been giving her space so she can overcome the previous relationship and talking to her casually. Even with consideration, I do not think she is ready for a relationship yet considering how the last one was dealt with along with my conversations with her. What do you guys think would be the best advise in this situation. Thanks guys. ^_^

Oh hey, it's ronined. Glad you're not dead! :P As far as your situation goes, first things first, I'd talk to your friend whom she dated about it. He may not be too keen on you dating one of his exes, and if you value his friendship then you should really respect that boundary first. If he's okay with it, then I don't think it would be out of the realm of crazy to maybe try and approach things a bit casually. Try and spend time with her and get a general sense if she'd ever potentially be into you. 3 months is a good amount of time in between relationships although for some people they may take awhile longer yet too. I don't think it's something you should just really come out of left field with and confess though. If you ask her to do things, I think she'll probably get the hint you're into her and will react accordingly, either wanting to spend time with your or will not be all that interested in doing things with you.

Thanks. So am I. Really appreciate the help. You bring an excellent point about talking to my friend about this first (for confessing) since I do value his friendship. I would still find it awkward on talking to him about this since he went to me to get advice on his relationship. So far I have been spending time with her talking and meeting here and there as a friend. The issue is that I know I am dense so I find it hard to see the cue points if she is into me or not.

Sometimes, you just gotta go out there and ask. That's really the only clear sign if she's open to that kind of relationship with you or not. :/ Good luck though!

Man sometimes even if you see that she might be not ready for another relationship you have to ask away Or deal with the what ifs If you get too close you might be friendzone