who wants to be a father

Admirable Sand, I've always wanted to be a father ever since i was young. I wanted to have a son to teach and to learn with. To show the world to, to pass on my interests like anime/paintball/military/historical society/archaeology or to just it around and share ghost stories. To fight with over curfew, to scold when i find his alcohol at 16 yrs old. To hit on his girlfriends when he brings them over when he's in Highschool and to get up and Dance in front of his friends at whatever event he and I ever find ourselves at and embarrass him. If i have a daughter I'll be a nervous wreck every time she leaves the house, record her in school plays and admire how much she'll look like her mother, then scare any potential boyfriends by cleaning my guns when he comes over to pick her up and i will have to fight the man she marries in a fist fight at least 1 time. It takes a lot of time effort and finance to raise a kid correctly. Most people only can muster 2 of those 3. I've never lost the want for the effort and I finally have the finance. But the time now.. the time for me is quickly running out.

Rezikai, that 1st paragraph made me laugh so much, because i feel the exact same way my friend. Personally, i also want to adopt a child, as well as have a few my own(biologically mine). However, the kid i adopt would be as much of my child as the others. A true parent is the one who raises the child. That is why i have to father, because Dave(my biological "father") had no impact on raising me and felt no obligation. He cared more about drinking than his own kids.

Omg... please please please WAIT!!! Until you know you are mentally and financially ready. The child will grow up soo much happier and healthier too. Just babysit, get the "kid fix" that way. I know that sound rather harsh but believe me, a baby is no walk in the park.

I'm not entirely sure any of us are racing out to have kids, Rae, calm down. lol. I went to high school with a lot of single, teen parents, and they made great parents. For a lot of people, it's not a matter of waiting. It's a matter of stepping up when it happens. My best friend was a teen mom, and her boyfriend left her soon after she gave birth. Total deadbeat dad. On the other hand, she was, and is, an ideal mother.

I'm not sure if I'm for or against it yet, probably cause I haven't found someone I care enough where I'd want to have kids with them. Under the right circumstances and we were together long enough, then I'd probably consider it, but for now I'm more concerned about finding a steady relationship and being a spoiling Uncle like I have been for about 10 years now! XD

Since there's no opposite thread for this, I'll post here. I'd like to be a mother eventually after I am married and somewhat stable financially. I've always wanted to have kids that I could raise better than my parents did for me. Also would have fun teaching them whatever I know and making costumes for them etc. A lot of my friends and others have told me I'd be a great mother and it kinda shows when I babysit or hang out with younger children. I don't think I'd be the "best friend" type parent but I would have that type of relationship sometimes with my kids.

@VigeoRae, Oh course, i know it will not be for a while, being only 18. I want to get through college, get a career, spend some time just me and the person i care for. I am by no means in a rush. I know babies are a lot of work, because i have a few new baby cousins.