why its so hard to find the perfect girl

Avoid usage of the words "perfect" or "normal" And perhaps you'll become more lucky. Everyone has flaws. Maybe some are physical, others emotional, and so on. Personally whenever I look for love, I never have any luck- it's generally when I turn my back on it when things start coming together. First make sure you're not *relying* on a relationship and are okay emotionally with being alone. I found that acceptance is the best way to start to finding love- put yourself out there. It's a tough thing to do, and you may get hurt in the process; but never let it bring you down and don't give up. There really is someone out there for everyone.

It's really hard for me to find my dream girl. I prefer one who doesn't drink nor smoke nor do drugs but it's always one or a combination. I can tolerate some very light drinking but the rest are deal breakers for me. Maybe I would have more of a chance with a Mormon but the problem is I'm an Atheist. I don't think my standards are too but I get no break in life... Sigh...

Perfect is a state of mind my friend.. what ya need is the perfect girl for you or as Chi Would say the one that is just for me. there is no perfect person but there is that certain someone out there for you.. and I have noticed ya usually find them when ya least expect it.. so stop worrying and I am sure she'll show up soon enough and smack ya right in the face and wake ya up to her as the "PERFECT" girl hehe.