unpopular opnions

Unpopular opinion, if your ex talks smack on your name, then just upscale til they got no ground to stand on #UseCodePWBranden #Thriving

If my ex talks about me, I wouldn't know.lol We have a kid together and I still don't know nor care if she does, as long as it's not yo or around my son. If we had no kids? She'd be like all my other exs, like a fart in the wind.lol No point keeping up with them or their circles.

Okay, this is an opinion I really need to get off of my chest because I've thought about it so much when I was younger and even still now. So, excuse the probably long wall of texts. My unpopular opinion (most likely within the black American community) is the use of the N word. My even more specific unpopular opinion about it is that I hate it, and that even means when black people use it towards themselves as well. I have discussed this with my sisters before, and I've told them that maybe we don't fully understand what's so appealing about this word because we are only half black (we're mixed race: our dad is black and our mom white), and we never grew up hearing that word because 1. Due to our living situation when younger, me and my siblings saw our white family members more cause they lived closer to us (even if they used the forbidden word to be rude, they never dared to say it in front of our parents about our dad or us) and 2. Our own dad didn't use the word (most likely due to our mom not liking it either/a mix of his parents not using it either). I know it may sound like I'm making light of something by saying I may not have the same opinion on it a black person may have on it because I'm not fully black, but I'm genuinely being serious, I didn't grow up around people who used it casually (in the sense of how black people use it to be friendly towards one another), but I think therein lies my issue with the word. My dad is a history geek. That's one of my favorite things about him is how book smart he is (our mom can be too, but she's really smart with financial stuff), and due to him being actually 100% African American (his descendants actually do come from Africa), he of course taught me and my siblings about black history and that includes the meaning of the N-word. Of course we were taught that IN GENERAL it is/has been an offensive and demeaning word towards our black brothers and sisters, so I think that's why I genuinely hate hearing the word...like, I guess (huge question mark here) it's great that you were able to take something really horrible and make it positive (ehhhh....), but I truly think they should use something else to refer to each other as, because the contextual and historical meaning of the word is very awful, and no matter how friendly you end up saying it is, it will never mean anything friendly (to me anyway lol). I view the word b*tch the same way, I feel like it's also a very commonly used word between black women to each other in their talk, and I also hate it too, because (and I mean this politely), that word was created for a female dog, let's not degrade ourselves to an animal. And I think I'm especially adamant on black people not using those terms IS because of their people's history behind those words being used on them to degrade and dehumanize, because people saw black folks as non-humans. Sometimes I've wondered that if people can inherit generational traumas, do they treat the N-word and b*tch the same way? Like, maybe black people got so used to being called those horrible things that they took on that hurtful language as casual speech to try and reclaim any semblance of control that they lost (and this is me referring to black slaves, not the modern day black man/woman). Idk, maybe it's partly my Christian beliefs and scriptures that warn against certain forms of speech, mixed with the fact that I personally wouldn't casually call someone those names (even if I meant well by them) myself because I was taught the meaning behind them, so I feel like I can't talk that way for fun just because. Like, when I was a kid I had a childhood friend that was used to talking that way (obviously we grew up differently: me in a family that doesn't cuss and her in one that does- and no, I'm not saying this makes me better than her or vice versa, let's not be ignorant now lol) and she tried to call me her b*tch...now, I knew she meant well, but I calmly told her to not disrespect me that way cause I'm not a female dog, and I likewise told her to not refer to herself that way around me at my house cause we don't talk that way, she thought I was joking at first but stopped when she realized I was serious, and I genuinely feel like she started acting like she respected herself a bit more after not saying that word about herself or others as much. Ahhh, this is getting long enough, but another problem for me is how black people say it's such a friendly word, and then switch up when other people use it casually as well (and I mean people that genuinely just try to use it in the same way black people do, to be friendly). Like, a part of my brain says they wouldn't be getting THAT defensive if the word as a whole was good, so there IS/MUST BE an underlying meaning they know about the word that gets them so heated when others use it – and again, let's not be ignorant here, this isn't me petitioning for literally every other person that isn't black be allowed to say the word, that's not it at all, but again, my unpopular opinion is that no one should use it, and that's just my opinion. Neither am I saying black people are somehow wrong either for saying it, I'm just curious, and obviously you can tell by how clunky this message is XD, because I'm genuinely confused about this word and it's appeal and how it's seen as empowering to black people.