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doctorchurchie
As of today I fully accept the fact that I will forever be alone. The guy I like told me he'd become interested in another girl and while it hurts right now. Though my heart is slowly breaking into two shattered pieces...all that I want is for him to be happy. But I do want to be able to find my happily ever after at some time. I want to love and I want to be loved. I want someone to mend my heart, to make it whole once more...I want him to see me for the person that I am, to be afraid of losing me...I want to actually mean something to someone...I want his heart to skip a beat and for butterflies to fill his stomach when he hears the sound of my voice. I want to be his one and only and not just the runner up, the second best...a consolation prize. So am I afraid of being alone forever? In short....yes.
shadowduty7
I don't mind being alone, but that doesn't mean that I want to be. The best thing to do is live your life and hopefully meet someone you can work things out with along the way. ^ To respond what churchie said, there is no such thing as happily ever after. Love isn't a means to an end, its finding someone you can tackle future obstacles with, be completely vulnerable with, and be genuinely happy with. Love isn't being dependent on having someone else fix and complete you. That's just using love as an excuse to fix your own lack in confidence by giving all of yourself to another person, rather than acknowledging the immense worth of your life, like everyone deserves. If you don't wanna be alone, don't be so dependent on love to fix your own problems. You should have friends, family, and loved ones that are there to help you, but becoming dependent on others to fix you while you ask to be saved is selfishly irresponsible. Focus on who you are, fixing your own problems, and ask others if you need help. Asking others for help is different than begging someone to be your everything and ask them for the same in return, thinking all your problems will disappear in the process. Sure, you can absolutely still find someone that'll try to be your other half and treat you as the center piece of the universe, but it'll eventually only give birth to twisted beliefs, demeaning each other's (and others) self-worth, and possibly codependency. Again, that ain't love and you and your children will suffer. If you don't want to be alone, self-reflect and work on yourself and don't get in relationships just to be loved. Otherwise it'll always end in disaster. Be your own person, have the self-worth to see that maybe its your partner's fault for certain things, don't ever think you deserve to be alone or should be, and find someone with a healthy self-esteem that you really get along with and talk to things with.
babaderu
Jun 27, 18 at 7:08pm
I will be foreveralone forever because I has been softlocked to thinking girls are all whore.
galiko23
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Apparently life thinks i'm too mainstream for getting a boyfriend; so i'm gonna watch were this boat is gonna float ...
kastiel
Jun 30, 18 at 9:38pm
Yes And no, lonliness is the only thing i’ve known how to feel in the past since i’ve never been loved before. I’ve put myself out there before, but no feelings have ever been returned. I don’t really care if i’m single forever because i’ve accepted the belief that love isn’t for everyone. I don’t feel anything, and i haven’t in a long time. I don’t care if i die alone either because i don’t fear dying or being alone. All i know is i will smile through it all, and i’ll be smiling in the moment that my life ends, alone or not. The reality for me is some things just aren’t meant to happen for everyone, no matter how hard they strive for it. Also i’m not gonna let being alone ruin my life, especially when i can travel the world and learn new things about life and people, make my dreams become reality, and live an excellent life. I think being detached from love has its perks too. I don’t want to be remembered or anything when i die, if anything i’d just prefer to be an anomally that once existed to make people smile and to promote peace and positivity
yestotally
Jul 01, 18 at 12:35pm
I personally believe that, if you die alone, you will regret it. Maybe not a lot, but you will. Love is something great and I think everyone should experience it. We humans find it difficult to live in solitude, which is why we look for others to be around.
muffster
Jul 01, 18 at 1:07pm
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purefault
I'm not sure. Before my last relationship, I was single for a really long time. I had been very interested in a small number of people over those years, but nothing worked out. Last year, I met someone by chance and thought I had found my soulmate. Only a few months later, she left me for numerous reasons, and I find out she only dated me because she thought it wouldn't work out anyway. So now, I feel far from wanting a serious relationship or commitment. Not sure when I'll ever feel differently...
bakablc
Jul 05, 18 at 10:37am
Never been in a relationship and i noticed i seem to have a hard time keeping friends cuz my communication skills arent great..and socializing can be mentally exhausting.. got social anxiety, non existant self esteem, paranoid tendancies ect (arent i great at selling myself? Lol) i kinda came to accept that i may end up being alone and i am starting to be ok with that. Or ive gotten better at lying to myself and am starting to beleve i am ok with it.. Idk one or the other c:
matchesia
Jul 05, 18 at 10:56am
Typically, I think I have high standards but I'm not really too sure at this point I also have the "shes too good for me" mindset, which in my case consists of me trying to build a close relationship with said person which ends with someone unimaginable confessing to my crush and them ending up together. With guys I usually find it really hard to find one I like, as A LOT of guys seem to be more about "lust" then actual "love" In general I need to improve my people skills, and work on my other weaknesses
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