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neet_one
Lets say for a moment you meet someone who's got pretty much everything you want (or close to it at least) and you get together. But then the problem is you two don't really click and you find it hard to hold simple conversations with the person, which eventually become boring. Do you stick it out and hope things improve with time, or do you cut them loose and move on? What if you thought you'd almost certainly never find someone as good again?
jtibbs
Give it a shot and see if you can't hit it off, worst comes to worst you just acknowledge that it wasn't meant to be and move on. Conversations don't always stay fresh and exciting and at times can be awkward even when you didn't have issues communicating in the past. Sometimes just acknowledging that awkwardness can be enough to break the ice. Do they know you're interested in them and are they interested in you?
neet_one
Whelp, I was curious to see what other people would do in the same situation but I guess it can't be helped. MidastheAlchemist, I don't mean courting someone, we're past that already. They're interesting, but the without getting much back it's hard to stay interested. They tend to act very indifferent. That on top of having little to talk about along with communication issues makes me wonder if this is a situation that will ever improve.
travisemo007
cut it loose. if you dont click. ya dont click. nothing you can do. You never want to force a relationship/connection. one it never lasts, and two it just makes things awkward for the person usually..
kameiya
Depends on how long you two been dating. If it only just recently started hive it time cuz this might be a newbie awkward stage where you two are trying to find that connection. If it has been a while. Like a two maybe more months than you might want yo leave it as friends cuz it's possible your personalities aren't meant to click. I know relationships takes a lot of work but there should be a connection and love to it. Best I can tell ya. Stringing things along when there is no connection and love is wasting each others time to be brutally honest on my thoughts on it. It could also hurt if it is also one sided. You two should talk it over. Feelings, why, what's lacking, everything.
shinu
Mar 03, 18 at 10:00pm
As someone who takes some time to open up, I think you should give it a chance. Try to open up to their interests, especially if they don't seem interested in your own. Try to start conversations about the things they involve themselves in, and see if they start talking more. It might take some time, but if the good will is there then I think you stand a good shot at it.
crossbones
Well, it depends on how you would handle the issue. If you both don't entirely click, then find something to make a click such as something you both haven't done/tried. Chances are that you both may enjoy the activity and perhaps may want to do more together. Both individual needs to put in effort. If one-sided, cut them off and move on. It would be a waste of time. Many people would stay though because they just want someone due to the fear of being alone rather than an actual commitment to a relationship. Me and my current girlfriend are exactly opposites. Two things we 'have in common' are liking Anime and playing games but our taste in those two are different as well. Outside of that there is literally nothing similar we share. How did we manage to make it work? We share new things together and keep doing so. We share each other's interests and even if it wasn't our cup of tea, we're happy that we spent time together regardless. We bonded through our character rather than seeking similar traits. This is just an example and of course everything is different for everyone. Just think of some ideas to get the wheel going and see if that works but the other person must also put in effort as well.
salganha
Sometimes our type isn't what we expect. I think if I had less than 3 months of dating, I would wait a little bit more, but more than 3 months is enough time to click already. But it can always variate. If the person is really similar to me (mostly in tastes), probably I would give up sooner, cuz if we didn't click for enjoying the same things together, we probably wouldn't. If we were more different, their would be a lot of things that one of us liked that we could try, or something, that, because we are so different, one of us could think that the other wouldn't ever think about it, and probably find that one balance between us.
shawnji
Well, the first thing is, don't get it in your head that you can't find anyone "better." Better is subjective, and sometimes what we think we want or need isn't really the best fit for us. There are literally billions of people out there, and the idea that only this one person could ever be this attractive, or this interesting, or this kind, or this... whatever it is you value in a relationship -- that's preposterous. The reason I'm harping on about that is because I have just been through that myself. You become so fixated on the person you think is "the one," that you lose all sense of perspective. It takes time to get over that, but eventually you will. Now, I'm not saying you should necessarily break up, but it sounds like you're already leaning that direction. It's obvious that the lack of meaningful communication bugs you, so I would suggest you talk about it and see of there's any possibility for change. If not... move on. It's better for both you and the other person that way, even if it may not feel like it in the moment. That said, I also agree that it takes time to know whether a relationship can work. You have to give yourselves time to get comfortable with each other and get past the rose-colored-glasses phase if you haven't yet. Take the time to really know the person and let them become themselves. If you're not willing to do that, then you likely weren't all that invested in them in the first place.
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