Advice?

Anyone got any advice for when your just feeling lonely enough your depressed? Longing for a connection with someone, my last two relationships ended up in being cheated on one being almost 6years and another almost a year and I just feel like I can not get a connection again..

those two that did that to you are just horrible people who shouldnt even be around people. you are valuable and deserve connection D:

Idk, even with dating it seems difficult to hold a meaningful conversation enough to seeing how things go, and most the time it's just ghosting and it hurt a bit when it comes from someone you where getting to know and things seem well, but what do I know?

just keep trucking through it! some people are just not good at conversations so i would say dont try so hard when it comes to that.

Sometimes with conversations with some people it starts out pretty amazing and you kinda fall for them little after awhile and they seem pretty amazing but it seems like it's not going anywhere, and sure you can continue with the rare few who may talk and accept friend requests but sometimes it feels my heart can't handle much anymore, my heart get very fluttery and I get my hopes up to much sometime

I can say that I have been there. I used the lonliness to be better. I made improvements to myself. I used the time to lift weights like never before. To become something I never thought possible of myself. Now I'm not saying lift weights, but do something that you can be proud of. Perhaps it is perfecting an art you enjoy, or become a great cook. When the right person comes along, you will know. It is as if an instinct inside of you is brought forth.

It's mainly just when I'm going to sleep, I do plenty to improve myself or keep busy but when I go to bed without having someone there with you that you love and care about it just feels lonely and makes me miss such a deep connection like that is all, i have plenty to be proud of, I'm a single dad taking care of my kid who's mother never checks in with us to see how she's doing or anything with her, work wise has been amazing with a raise, myself wise Im less anti social and less bad anxiety, it's just longing for someone feeling alone is all

I can't speak to being a father since I have never had nor probably ever will have kids. That being said, I think you're doing the right things. Focusing on yourself and being a father. I never had that long term relationship where it got to the cohabitation point when you lived with someone for several years like you did with some of your past partners, but I've dated plenty over the years. Don't let your value, self-worth, and mental well being hinge on if anyone is sleeping next to you every night. While sure it'd be nice if we could all find that meaningful relationship that lasts, there's far more out there and to worry about than whether you've got a girl laying next to you every night. Maybe I can speak from the fact I never really had that as much as you did in the past so it doesn't bother me as much, but your worth as a man and father goes so far much above whether you are in a relationship or not. This site in general really isn't the best at finding a partner, and while some have managed to do so and it's a potential tool for that, it definitely shouldn't be the only one either. But don't be so laser focused on a relationship either. Ultimately relationships should be looked at as a compliment to your life. Not the end all, be all of it.

I know I'm a little late, but here's my input. For context I fell deeply in love with someone who I fully believed I would spend the rest of my life with. I had a medical emergency and they flat out told me they did not love me and hadn't for a long time. It's heartbreaking, I know how you feel. I'm sending you lots of hugs. I bet you've been told half a dozen times, "This too shall pass." I know it sounds like an empty platitude, but there's truth to it. One day, it may be a very long time from now, this won't feel as intense. The pain can and does fade, maybe just a little, but it will. But for now, be patient with yourself, and let yourself feel the sadness and process it all. My advice is to invest in yourself. Know that you are lovable. You are worthy. Work on building yourself up. When this first happened to me, I was a mess, collapsing on the floor (literally) believing I would never feel anything good again. It's still hard to feel like I can find love again, hell I may never find marriage/romance again, that's just life. But building yourself up, surrounding yourself with the people you do have around, and being gentle with yourself will pay off. Don't force yourself to get "back out there" in the dating scene too soon. The other relationships we have in our lives, like with friends, parents, etc. can sometimes end up on the back burner during long term relationships. You might be surprised what you find when you tend to those other relationships more. I've found myself getting so much closer to my mother and best friend since what happened to me. I also feel more grateful for these relationships. Listen to yourself and how you feel. Get to know yourself again. Sometimes in moments like this we just need some good friends around and we mistake needing friends for wanting romance. If you are lonely, putting yourself out there for friendships can be super helpful and just as fulfilling. Don't put romantic pressures on connections upfront, that often just leads to more disappointment and rushing things. I only say that because I tried it recently and it only made me feel worse. Just see where things go with someone. Separations change our perspective sometimes. Our tastes change. Giving a person a chance without putting too much pressure on where that connection goes, will take you a long way. My best advice is to try something new and find what makes YOU happy and who you are as a person, outside of a long term relationship. I know that feeling though, when you go to bed it's the hardest. Believe me, I've had some sobbing nights going to bed alone. I try to reframe it. That time you spend alone is not going to be wasted. What you're doing to work on yourself, raise your child, work hard, etc. that's going to come back to you one day. You'll just have even more to share with that special person when you do meet them. Don't give up hope! That's a message for myself too lol