Trying to solve the mystery of why there are so few women looking for dates

I'm right there with you, and unfortunately experienced a huge set back to my mental health at the start of the year, and I wasn't exactly dating material before then either. But I'm starting to get to where I was. In some ways, better, in others worse.

Here are a couple reasons. 1. Women naturally get attention online, there is a reason behind the "revealing yourself as a girl in game" meme. You own a vagina and boobs chances are dudes are hititng you up. With most girls having 3-4 guys interested in dating at one time it starts to then give them an ego boost. Now dudes seeking them arent good enough to just talk to and it seems like unwanted attention now. 2. Guys being creepy, alot of guys just cant keep it in their pants. Even girls who are dating and state they are dating someone. I mean same can be said dudes girls hit on married dudes and taken guys all the time. But women tend to be less creepy about it. 3. That site/area is just dead, get your shovel because that place is a graveyard and the only mates you are gonna find are 6 feet under. 4. "Just friends" effect. Why be limited to talking to one guy. Because lets be honest then minute you become taken guys start losing interest snd now this harem of 5-6 guys drops to like 2. Yes 2 because there will always be that one guy waiting for his turn.

https://thepopularman.com/why-is-dating-so-hard-for-guys/ Here's a good read. Throws some stats out there but then mentions a lot of societal issues that are contributing factors. Women swipe right (like) on only 4.5 percent of guys on Tinder (Men swipe right 62 percent of the time)!! Women judge 80 percent of male profiles as “unattractive” in some way 70 percent of Tinder users reported never going on a date If the average man, under average conditions, wants to be 99% certain he’ll receive a reply to a message online he will need to send 114 messages (women only have to send 25). Yes, read that again. The top 10% of men clean up, monopolizing the attention of most women, while the bottom 50% of men are fighting for the attention of less than 5% of women, at least on the Hinge app. In one study, when an attractive women swiped right on all men, she got 600 matches in 4 hours. Yes, read that again. This shows how competitive these apps are for men. This makes sense, because Tinder is 78% men, and other dating apps are similarly male-dominated. 1. Guys are checked-out The Western world today is more disconnected than ever. Most people don’t know their neighbors, have few friends, and wouldn’t even know where to find community events. Many men simple don’t have friends. The likelihood of being friendless triples if you’re a man from his 20s to late middle age. Many men only have a couple of friends, but 11 percent of single men have zero friends. Yet, how do people meet romantic partners? It’s through friends. By far. It’s not even close. One study showed that 39 percent of couples met through friends, although this number is going down. So, if men don’t have a friend group or few community connections, where do you meet women? Well it involves randomly approaching women, whether at bars or even the grocery. And, while this is possible (and I do it), it’s not exactly easy. It’s no wonder people ask why is dating so hard for guys? As a result, many guys just “check out.” 2. #MeToo Movement made work dating pretty non-existent The #MeToo movement has made many men reluctant to engage women, even in an appropriate manner, in environments where they previously would have. In addition, many workplaces tightened rules which make trying to date there dangerous for one’s career. 3. Overestimations and misreading people It’s been shown over and over again that men consistently overestimate how much women are actually attracted to them (interestingly, women underestimate). Guys think women are into them, when the women are not. Men also tend to overestimate their own attractiveness. ...guys look at the behavior of women in their lives like smiling, laughing, and even talking to them as a green light for a date. They perceive friendliness (and sometimes forced friendliness like a cashier) as romantic interest when it clearly isn’t. 4. Old vs new Another reason dating is hard for men is because modern men just aren’t as attractive and dateable as in the past. Women typically date men who are higher in social, educational, and financial status. They also are generally attracted to men who are assertive, muscular, dominant, and ambitious. At the very least, men with these traits end up dating a lot of women, largely because men with these traits are bold and take risks. And, modern guys just aren’t very dateable based on all of this. For example, more young men live with their parents than young women do. Men are less educated than women, and rates of obesity among men are skyrocketing. All of these factors mean that among men, testosterone levels are at all time lows. Men with higher testosterone are more likely to have the traits that women find attractive. While this means higher T guys will clean up in the dating world, it also means that dating is more challenging for the average guy (this also explains why more men are sexless than in the past).

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