Long Distance Relationship

I'm just like Rose Bukater in the 1997 film Titanic. Feeling like an alien that wants to move to another planet. But if that takes way too much time for me to wait, then suicidal thoughts pop up. Me looking at old country farts in Georgia State adoring newborn angels in our community and family feels like that scene when Rose looked at a very young girl dressed very beautifully and being taught how to place her napkin on her lap properly. Rose also tried to jump off the ship, but Jack prevented her from doing so.

What Lamby ラミ @momoichi said is pretty essential in long-distance relationships in my opinion. However I believe it (talks, chit-chats during breaks) shoudnt be forced - it should be felt. Like having a mutual feeling about sharing even smallest things that happened during day and being really happy to know it from each other. Also i dont think something like "burnout" would exist in real relationship. It should be all about spending time together and enjoying doing it as two. Things in common, hobbies, even job related stuff should be enjoyable by both people. I cant imagine "love" when one person is "tolerating" or forcing himself / herself to do what other person wants. Feeling joy and happiness from spending daily life together as well as from supporting each other is important.

Yeah I totally agree ^^. Working out things together is a good thing too! Like helping in planning with your life etc. You need to have your own "ME" time too ;)

Tried it in my early 20s, my advice would be... don't do it or avoid it as much as possible. 9 out of 10 times, it will not work out. Maybe statistics have gotten better these days with the newer generation but in all honesty, it requires a lot of effort and perfect timing to make things work. If you do catch feelings online, the best mindset approach in my opinion would be to just think of it as becoming really good friends and be okay with that. The younger you are, the less likely it will work out.

I agree with sleepless. I too am always snoozy, heh! But it's a fact that if neither party has the means to meet in person all one can do is talk without attachment. People will often meet with those that have a closer proximity to theirselves. Psychologically speaking it will save both individuals a lot of headaches. Only time a long distance relationship can work is if there is a solid plan for both people to live in the same area via work, home, or school. However, the average American relationship these days tends to be increasingly nomadic. People rarely seek marriage because they have been traumatized by their parent's lifestyles. Almost a majority of my classmates growing up were from homes with divorced or unmarried parents. My guess is that with such a growing trend of apathy, with most kids seeing perfect relationships only in fantasy media, when they become adults they attribute such behaviors as a game to be played. So the real winners are those from a more traditional upbringing who know how to realistically plan out their personal life while accommodating another's. Either way, even people living in the same town are difficult to negotiate with. Better to enjoy the moment and not attach deeper meaning to what others say. Just have fun and move on.

If you go into a LDR, be sure you know enough about the person and your goals before committing. If they do not have the ability to eventually meet up with you, you're going to have a bad time. Same with you. If you don't have the ability to meet up with them, you're going to have a bad time. Talk to them about your goals and be sure you are on the same page. Are they wanting a relationship, perhaps seeking "the one" (*cue heavenly angels singing, sunshine breaking the clouds*) or are they just wanting someone to talk to, a sexual penpal. If you don't know what you want or what the goals are, you're going to have a bad time. https://c.tenor.com/-VAW22Qk6doAAAAM/youre-gonna-have-a-bad-time-bad-time.gif

LDR can be a bit hard on some people because of time differences, and not being able to see each other all I have to say is two things be committed, and have an end date having a time, or day you'll end the LDR and see each other is good it shows you guys are willing to have time for your relationship and to make it work.