First time I was ever stood up, a lesson about broken promises.

Hello, you all know who I am. No introductions necessary. My disappearance from a while happens to involve being in a new relationship or one forced on me by coworkers that act like “dating sites bad”. This new girl was someone I’ve spent 5 months with. Or more talked with because we couldn’t do much together. Let’s just get into the basics, she is an introvert. There are times I go out of my way to try talking with her or even text her, and she often gave late responses to explain herself. Yet she have the audacity to beg me for a birthday gift and Valentine’s Day basket. Her more outgoing sister always encourages the two of us to talk more. I take the initiative, but she never does. Hell, she even hid behind her sister when my father insists that I should take her with me to give her Valentine’s gifts out of his car. Speaking of which, my parents always had bad feelings about this girl like calling her weird and too suspect for someone who’s supposed to be my girlfriend. But then comes May when things take a darker turn. We both made a promise to go on a date at Denny’s in the morning at a time both of us were available. We talked about it many times and clearly wanted this. It was delayed the first time because she wanted to work overtime and said we should try again the next time. Then came the day of the date, I was dressed up and ready. Called her just to see if she was ready too, but then silence. I’ve used FaceTime and even normal calls to see if she ever wanted to go. And of course my father being the know it all, told me the harsh truth that she was never the one while playing me like a fiddle. So I ask myself, what did I do wrong that she suddenly ghosts me just like that? I mean she even still wanted me despite admitting her age being 28 was a lie and she was actually 21 going on 22 the whole time before her birthday. Another thing is that she wanted almost everything to go her way. She asks me for 90 dollars from me despite the fact we worked at the same job (formerly) and didn’t want to answer me when I asks her what the money would be for. She acted like she appreciated the 30 Valentine’s Basket that I’ve created myself, but probably felt disappointed that I didn’t give her exactly what she wanted. And of course there was the argument that I should pay for her meal AND transportation just because that’s what men were made for. And I’ve always gotten the feeling she wanted little to do with me anymore because she hated how my parents always have to be involved in everything we do. So yeah. I’m confused on whether this girl was innocent and felt she was never really ready to date to begin with or it was all some sick game her and her sister play just to manipulate every American guy they come across while they travel. This experience just left me in a clear hollow state that I’ve just let someone use me like this. Obviously, I will not give up on finding The One. But of course I will be less trusting of anyone hiding too many secrets from me or not willing to open themselves up. Also, I will never ever want to be caught dating anyone below the age of 24 again (obviously legal). It’s always the younger ones who will be highly likely to stab you in the back in the end.

Yeah, she sounds like a user. Asking for 90 bucks out of nowhere would definitely be a red flag. The more dates you go on you will be able to detect users faster and you can bail asap. Never go on a second date with a blood sucker. You'll find that older women with a stable job are less likely to shank you for money at every turn. There are a lot of women who don't want or need a sugar daddy so I'm sure you will find someone.