help with myself..

i guess you should start by asking yourself why you hate yourself then see if those are traits you can reasonably fix, or if you reasonably want to fix them and if so, get to working on them if no, then see that these are not traits you can fix, so you should start trying to like them positive thoughts really do help

Confidence in who you are. Confidence makes you look more attractive, more dependable and easier to talk with.

I had this exact same thing. So, I did the following: I accepted my past mistakes and the things I can't or could never control. I focus my energy on things I can control and what can make me a better me. If there is an issue, I fix it so it's done. Then it's done and I can move on to something else I want to spend my time doing. I've removed some people from my life that were keeping me from being happy and I stopped apologizing for just being myself.