New Roommate Q

1. If it's pertinent information. If it's going to affect what they need to do, then tell them. Otherwise, it's not really their business. 2. See number 1. 3. See number 1.

For the most part as long as... 1. Your disability isn't some kinda contageous 2. Does not require a significant (the definition of this varies greatly person to person) accomodation or sacrifice out of said roomate. In other words will they be able to "live the same". Like if you have some physical disability that might require them to like pick you up and move you around / drive you places they definitely should know that up front. 3. Your ability to financially contribute (or by some sort of service - not that kind either) to the household. If you can pay "your half" where you get your money isn't their business (assuming no illegal activity from shared living place) 4. In this kind of situation ground rules are important and should be established explicitly up front. Little Teapot I think you're thinking of a roomate like a mom. They aren't. - you dont gotta tell them everything like a secretary or your day planner.

Tea, It's like this, they really don't need to know. Can you make rent/utilities? That's all that matters. Why would they question anything if you can? If they do, that's when I'd just tell them that you're on disability and really, unless you want to tell them why, again, they don't NEED to know. What if you were your roommate or potential roommate was disabled? Would it matter? If they paid for their part and their stuff, would it matter? If what ever their disability was didn't effect you, would it matter? I get being worried they might find it sketchy not knowing what or if you do, but if it's really such a big deal for you to tell them, just tell them you're on disability . They may not even ask. You just sound like you have problems obsessively overthinking.XD Edit, I apologise for my grammar or lack there of. Sitting on a toilet and mah leg is falling asleep. Hard at work tonight...

It's easy to just say they don't need to know, but at some point it's going to come up. Especially if you end up being friends with the person in any way. That's a hard one though, I would say that at first only talk about it if they ask, and then be honest. You need to think of a quick way to say what you have without going into detail if that makes any sense. With me my problems are (mostly) on the outside so I haven't had to think about this one...

Yeah Cali is open to a lot of things except conservatism XD but for the most part your disability (whatever it is) shouldnt be much of a thing really. Though if youre gonna have someone over to do chores essentially that might be noteworthy to bring up (I dont think its unreasonable to wanna know whose in your residence and why)

"Little Teapot I think you're thinking of a roomate like a mom. " I realize you resolved his blatantly patronizing "tone" in an adult manner, but that kind of grated on my nerves. To stay on track... Are you doing a background check on your potential roommate? I'd be more weary of someone I don't know nor ever met, than what they'd think of your disability or being on government assistance. Not to add paranoia to an already obsessive mind. Years ago I ended up moving in with a group who partied all the time, drank constantly and at least one heoroin addict...Now, that place would've made for a great Jerry Springer show. I dealt with it because I kept to myself and stayed in my room. Point being, people be crazy, yo.

Well, my situation was from a Craigslist add, so there's that.XD I survived, I most definitely learned a lot from that living situation and sadly, it's made me a bit more jaded about people in general. But, it was cheap. Yeah, like others said, it's gonna come up at some point and really, it might not be a bad idea to alert them that you may have occasional help come over from time to time. Is what it is, but again, if it's not really effecting them, I don't think they'd care.

Diddo... Quick answers... I’m off work right now, but I’ve got my part of the rent and expenses covered. And if you feel you must give a reason. I’m off work because my health has been in decline, but it’s nothing for you to worry about. I’ve got my part of the rent and expenses covered. Minimal information because they don’t need to know more, as long as you have your part of the expenses covered. Then jump into other things like parties, or cleaning expectations without giving time to dwell on the health topic. They can come back to the topic after if they’re concerned. Is that the kind of answer you’re looking for?

I over think things too, and often go into unnecessary detail. It might help to write down what you want to say ahead of time. If you feel you’re being too wordy, you can scratch things out. I sometimes ramble when I’m nervous. Other times I blank as to what to say. That can help with either.