Hurt

Okay. Well theeeennnn hey guys i'm back to write this post, after this i'm gonna go to bed so i'll read your reactions some other time basically i was in a relationship with this girl about 8 months back she really broke my heart, and i know that's what it always comes down to but i feel like some breakups aren't as bad as others but i think this one is just really bad. i'm not that experienced when it comes to breakups, but still. it was a really toxic relationship, blablabla. anyways. i share some classes with her, and.. it's getting to me too much. last week i had to explain chemistry stuff and.. she's just the person i fell in love with when she talked and smiled and laughed. i mean, she put up a face ofcourse, because she's probably still dealing with it aswell (as her mental state isn't the best), but the laughs and smiles were genuine, and.. well just something inside me reignited and i can't seem to let go. that ignition was like a dried out forest waiting for some cigarette to be thrown at it, because i knew somewhere i still hadn't let go yet, but still. i don't know how to explain it, what it comes down to is how do i let go? how do i just detach myself from her? the conversation we had wasn't awkward at all, because i'm not an awkward person. PS: the reason i had to explain chemistry is because we have this thing where we take one part of a paragraph and explain it to each other over 2 lessons. (our chemistry paragraphs are large)

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c59/Rubberpenguin/1495552230_preview_111.jpg Okay, stupid memes aside, lets take this seriously. How to get over someone? It's tough. Experienced or not. Its kinda like a skill though. You aren't born with the ability to get over people, or to over come loss, or to accept disappointment. And even at 17, you aren't really equipped with the experiences you need to learn how. But this is generally the time in your life where you can start learning how to maturely handle it. (If you aren't already doing so.) My general approach to overcoming heartbreak is to focus more on the healing process. Proper emotional healing is not done through dulling the pain, which is kinda the instinctive thing to do. Rather, emotional healing is a counter intuitive process. Identify where you stand emotionally, and really work through why you feel that way. Confront yourself on it, but do so with the intent of objectively understanding yourself, rather than the conditions that you feel made you that way. But heartbreak is similar to grief in that it follows the same cycle. And sometimes you should be conscious of where you are on that cycle. Denial, bargaining, blablabla, yes those things. Don't try to force yourself through it. Work with your emotions through it. Eventually, it just gets to the point where you aren't weighed down by the experience anymore. Something you could achieve through apathy, but this way will leave less of a scar. And be careful, emotions are not logical. If it feels like you're picking a scab, go easy on yourself. I hope that all makes sense. And I wish you the best of luck. Navigating heartbreak is a tricky process. But the earlier you learn, the better off you'll be down the road. Good luck, yesstotally.

Best way to deal with it is to detach yourself from her. Sucks that you have classes with her, i worked at a hospital where a girl i was together with for 1 year was at and it sucked after the breakup so i just resigned. Pick up your old hobbies, spend more time with freinds etc. Easieast way most people deal with these things to detach themselves is to slowly start portraying the ex in a dark light but i dont recommend that.

eh, it's been 7 months since we broke up. as in, i haven't been with her for over 7 months now. it's just that sometimes shit gets to me too much. thanks guys

In a way you almost never get over people, you can't delete memories and feelings like a computer. What I have done in the past is keep living on like I did before the relationship. Time and new memories will help you to focus on more relevant and important things. You shouldn't suppress any thoughts that come about your ex, it's not a good idea to try to blot out a part of your past, but don't actively spend all your time thinking about it. Hell, my way probably isn't the best way but it's worked well enough for me. Just thought I'd give my two cents, good luck to you.