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otakueaterd
It literally feels like I'm playing cat and mouse with this one girl that I am talking to. She is going to college and also is a cosplayer but the problem with that is she is literally scared of what her parents will say if they found out that she was even thinking of being interested in someone on social media. it's sad because of the fact that she is 20 years old and I've been in a relationship similar to this where a girl who was a mom and also a college student trying to get her diploma but her parents did not want her to date anyone because if she did then she would have to lose her money so she would be able to date me.... She ended up blocking me even though I was worried and I never heard from her since. This girl seems like she has a good head on her shoulders but with the fact that her parents are literally stressing out about her studies.... Can you imagine that it sucks. I can barely even talk to her on a daily basis anymore because of it. I don't think that I should try to go overboard with trying to be with her because it seems like she does not have her life in order just yet. What do you all think?
cac
Sep 29, 18 at 11:09am
Seems like she still relies on her parents for a lot. I'd say just keep being a friend and eventually things might work out.
warmblood2
You should keep talking to her to her, doing the online dating thing, until she's got her life in order on till the parents aren't a problem anymore.
otakueaterd
The problem is I barely talk to her anymore as I talk to her from time to time weekly but with the fact that she scared of what her parents will think of talking to someone as she can't even have an amino.
rainx
Sep 30, 18 at 1:54pm
You know until she's at least done with school, I don't think there is much you can do in the current situation other than to be there for her if she contacts you and try not to push things. The parents still clearly have a controlling influence in her life, and especially if they're contributing to paying for her schooling, they're gonna want to have her primary focus be on that. Best thing to do here is probably move on from her. She's definitely not in a place she could date someone anyways as it seems to stands now.
otakueaterd
Yeah that's what I was thinking as I don't want to seem like a jerk and move on if she still hung on to me as I don't want her to move somewhere that she's not comfortable with or even know where she is going to go. She may know things of where to go and knowing her surroundings but she has me worrying what's going to happen because she has this otaku mindset and I'm not talking about the otaku mindset of a adult I mean like that taco mindset of a kid. She literally would wear a cape to college and Cosplay sometimes in public.
bob_loblaw
I... can't help it... I gotta post this xD http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMaE6toi4mk
leo_ss
Alright man, I don't know all the details, But let me give you some advice. If you can't be happy by yourself don't be in a relationship. And this goes for who you date aswell. She's already blocked you before, and is seemingly trying to distant herself from you. You deserve better than this. And no matter her issues, if she allows them to throw a wrench into your relationship, than it shows how she will act in the future, during similar situations. Move on brother. I know it's a cliche, but it's true, "Millions of fish in the sea." or in this case, over 3 billion.
otakueaterd
I think that you guys have gotten some of the information mixed up. I was comparing the girl that is going to college right now to someone that I dated two years ago as they both wanted to get their diploma and become something successful with their lives but there are situations were different. The one from before blocked me without any reason whatsoever plus the fact that she still needed to graduate because she was not working plus she had a child so I could understand her reasoning because her parents literally owned her. While the girl that I talk to right now literally does not have a job and she literally is a geek that wants to make your family proud as I have nothing against her for wanting to do that but it's just the fact that she has kind of this childish personality that makes it hard for me to stick by her and I wouldn't want to be the person that gets in the way of her studies plus the fact that she is not talking to me as much because the fact that her family doesn't want her dating anyone long distance, she still wants to be with me but right now I feel that she needs to worry about her studies more than me. that's why I wanted to post to see what are your thoughts on it as I don't want to date her right now as I want her to literally see what the world is like after she graduates and starts looking at the worlds without having her parents hold her hand plus with the fact that she literally cosplays in public really is a worry for me because it is not the first time I dated someone that cosplayed in public and I felt kind of embarrassed.... It was really embarrassing and I don't want her to get hurt or something happened to her because of what she dresses like or so on so forth plus I don't want that on my conscience. I do love myself and I can be in a relationship or not being one...
beherit
I'd generally avoid people who do not have their life in order yet, many have a tendency to make their problems your problems. Otherwise, it does seem many older parents who were young before the internet was a thing are bit culture-shocked by the idea of forming a relationship with someone online, but that is something they will have to come to terms with.
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