Deal Breakers

So I already made a topic about what we are most attracted to. So what are your deal breakers? What are the things that you could NEVER compromise with, no matter how awesome they were in other ways. For me. Dishonesty, This is a big one for me. Trust is the biggest glue of a relationship, Lying, Cheating, all of that, Just not something I'm willing to deal with. I've compromised on this before, and it did not end well. Open Relationship, Nope. Just nope. Some people like this kind of stuff. All the power to you guys. But it's not for me. Never will be, I don't like sharing. Animal hater. Allergies is one thing, But hating animals? Nah. I mean I love to eat them, but I still love the furry bastards. No Children. Again, this is another, All power to you. If you want to be a 'strong, independent womyn' you do you. But I want Kids in my future so, not going to work out for us. Health. I work to stay healthy, I expect my SO to do the same. You don't need to be a gym bunny. But making sure one doesn't have a heart attack at 30 Is nice. Not only does it show self respect, but it also just makes individuals happier in general, thanks to those tasty happy hormones it releases. Giver. I'm a giver, I love to make my SO's happy. However I can't be the only person putting effort in the relationship. Close minded. I can't deal with close minded people, Let alone a close minded person in a relationship. It just won't end well. There are obviously other things I may not prefer or enjoy, but they are less deal breaker than the above. And can be compromised. But this topic isn't for all the little things we may hate. Just the big, You can never deal with, or without this. Whatever they may be.

Cheating / Underage / Smoker / Aggression To me cheating is a sign that maybe I am doing something wrong for that partner to seek another person. Maybe because I am not attractive? smart? my behaviour? mistake? not satisfying? offended? Underage is absolutely not! I don't mind some age gaps...However, relationship with underage; I shall not do! I don't smoke and will not smoke ever. Even so, it is not that I hate smoker, just not comfortable with secondhand smoking. I have had many friends/ colleague that smoke! I still be there for em at smoking section during the break at post secondary school. Just not comfortable with it, that is all. Offensive, abuse, I tend to avoid it all... I had a parent that constantly screamed at each other every night when I was growing up. My dad had really short temper, so whenever I try to talk to him; he would just scream at me. My mom can't really hold in and just says thing what she don't like right away. So she just joins my dad during the scream, ending up shouting at each other anyway. So in the end, I developed a bad habit of avoiding them, when possible and started avoiding people of conflicts.

Hey lyn, Cheating is never your fault. Ever. It is always 100% the problem of the other person. Because when needs aren't being met, you should discuss them. Not go behind their back. Or if you have discussed them, then break up if they won't change and you're willing to cheat over it. So don't ever blame yourself for it. Not your fault they can't be trustworthy. And yeah, Abuse is never something I think anyone truly wants.

Shawnji, All good things to keep as deal breakers. Neeto, why don't you elaborate on that? I mean I get what you're saying, But this is a place for discussion after all.

I've mentioned some rather simple standards/desires in the past. These are pretty normal for countries on the other site of the world, but here the bar is set so low people generally think my standards are way too high if not impossible. Whelp, this will likely offend and piss off pretty much everyone reading it... but so be it, you asked for it. Kids these days (ie millennials) can't handle the least bit of criticism, but I don't really care. Their fragile ego are of little concern to me. Anyways, you've been warned. Well where to start... I find that more and more often (especially in my region) women tend to be very overweight and they don't care. They're also rude, loud, snobbish, ill tempered, have no manners let alone an ounce of grace and tend to be very manipulative and controlling. Educate is a four letter word for them. Rather than do anything about the problem they have, they expect men and society itself to just 'deal with it', and sadly many do. https://i.imgur.com/YZhDI6b.jpg All too often I see fit men with angry balloon shaped women and it's just depressing. Guys these days are so desperate that they'll take anything they can get, and women know this. All because men think having some nasty slutty cow is better than being single, and they desperately try to convince themselves they're okay with this. Women know they can be ugly and rotten to the core and it doesn't matter because men will always be available to them. This has resulted in the typical female of this country becoming spoiled rotten. They have huge expectations of men but might actually be offended by the idea of giving a guy what he wants. Likewise, many find the concepts of cooking or cleaning to be offensive and insulting, despite the fact this is just a common part of life, and would rather live in filth and eat nothing but fast food than lift a finger around the house. https://i.imgur.com/Xe0ZNuD.jpg These types of 'women' are not marriage material, they're barely even human. They're leaches who only exist to scream at their male slaves for more food. Were that not bad enough, a popular thread these days is for women to destroy their bodies by permanently injecting graffiti into their skin, often based on stupid fads. It's a clear indication of how short sighed and lacking of good judgment they are, as well as how little self respect they have for their body and appearance. Speaking of appearance, western women tend to have horrible fashion sense and dress like slobs, hookers, or homeless people. I've seen women even here who think the idea of wearing a dress/skirt is 'weird' and 'embarrassing'. It's as if women in this country are ashamed to be women. This while being over masculinised thanks to a degenerate media and culture that encourages women to be more manly. Men are always talking about how they want women who are like another one of the guys, women who curse and drink beer and fuck casually and watch sports and all that garbage, while at the same time complaining about how annoying/boring the more girly types are. It's as if this society wont rest until American women are practically indistinguishable from men. As someone who likes women who are, you know, feminine, this leaves a person like me with slim pickings. http://i.imgur.com/caDFP.jpg Then there's the infidelity and toxic life styles. American culture encourages people to be self centered, prioritizing your own happiness over that of others. A common reason I see for divorce is the old "I'm not happy anymore" or "I don't love you anymore" So rather than stick it out and try to make things work, they leave simply because the flame has died down a bit. These people have no idea what loyalty or dedication is. They spit out vows about staying together trough sickness and being poor, but toss that out the window the second things actually do get bad. With divorce rates being nearly 50% in this country, how the hell are you supposed to trust anyone? Doesn't help when the culture here encourages people to sleep around casually with multiple partners, mocking those who don't. This cheapens relationships the same way anything else would be devalued when taken in excess. If you're dating a women who's had 15 previous partners, you'd have to be a retard to think that list is going to end with you. https://img.ifcdn.com/images/ec36bebdf0e5a84039342b838d4daf14163513c112e5b2e0dd24cee8a0611794_1.jpg It's insanity to think doing the same thing over and over again might provide different results, but sometimes living in this country I think everyone must be insane. The culture is toxic and the results are obvious. Divorce, and infidelity are common place, yet no one can seem to put 2 and 2 together. It's insanity. I don't know if people here are really that stupid, brain washed by TV, or if they're just trying desperately to convince themselves everything is fine. https://i.imgur.com/c4jt321.png In short; American women in my experience tend to be fat, whorish, selfish, greedy, bitchy, rude, spoiled, obnoxious, ill mannered, foulmouthed, moronic, anti-ladylike, fickle, manipulative, spiteful, untrustworthy, and all around revolting. And of course, if you point any of this out you get labeled as a hyper asshole, a sexist, as a pig who just hates women, or some ignorant garbage of that nature. I can say this though because I don't care if people here hate me or it ruins my chances with women from this site. I've been on this site long enough to know I'm not going to find any decent women from my area here. Instead I keep getting skanks, sluts, and white trash throwing themselves at me. I've made my standards and deal breakers clear on my profile, but women keep ignoring it while thinking if they push hard enough I'll cave in and ignore things that clearly bother me. Women here on MO have offered the "friends with benefits" thing with me as if that wouldn't make me think less of them, they've tried to get me to pity them with sob stories to excuse their horrible life style choices, I've been hit on by underage girls who are sexually active, women with kids who think it's no big deal, and so on. This might work on a guy who has no standards or self respect, but that's not me. That's not to say I haven't encountered decent women on this site, there's been plenty. They're usually hundreds or thousands of miles away from this hellhole I'm stuck in and don't want long distance relationships. Sometimes in other countries, where none of the stuff I mentioned is an issue. Where women are women, not angry selfish hateful cows. I don't expect anyone to agree with me because it might hurt their chances with these cows. And yeah I realize not all women here are like this, but like I said, decent ones who haven't fallen victim to American culture are just really hard to find these days, where as most are some variation of what I've mentioned.

Damn Neet, You are quite passionate about this. I think partially the problem is that men really don't have any standards anymore, Many are just desperate to get with anyone, afraid to be alone. So they go with the first person they see. Honestly, I couldn't stand a girl like that, and I'd be more likely to cut them out of my life than date them, at most be friends, even then unlikely. I enjoy feminine women with a good sense of humor, and things in common.(Whether this makes them masculine or not.) However, I don't believe all girls are like this, infact I'd argue a large amount aren't. It's just they aren't as loud as the annoying ones. And you have to remember. If guys weren't taking girls act like complete stuck up bitches, then they wouldn't in such high demand. I see your opinion however.

hmmm deal breakers for me would be cheating, abuse, lack of physical attraction, lack of aspirations in life, mean/rude to strangers, no sense of responsibility, large age gap, and i'm not particularly fond of people who pity themselves or people who feel like they are entitled to certain things. there's probably more >x`D

Heh, a few sentences into Neeto's explanation, I thought "He lives in Cali, doesn't he?" I was right, haha XD I've thought a lot of the things you have, but Cali is just a freaking human wasteland; living proof that the far left has become just as stupid, if not more stupid, than the far right. I used to think Texas was the asshole of the country, but Cali is tied at this point IMHO. But everything you've said is why I've developed a thing for Asian girls in recent years. American girls tend to see men as nothing more than walking, talking money bags (not always true, but definitely an observable trend). At least Asian girls (or American girls raised in traditional Asian families) tend to be considerate and respectful of others (also not always true, but also definitely an observable trend). For me, my dealbreakers are basically everything Neeto said. I absolutely adore an intelligent, independent woman. But someone who will never see me as anything more than an inferior is a definite turnoff, and I'd rather stay single than subject myself to such a person.