Successful Long-Distance Relationship Stories!

My first and last relationship, we were together for a year and it actually started off great. We both talked to each other everyday and planned to meet at the end of this year, when everything was going great. We would send each other pics of us doing stuff in our daily lives, memes and videos we thought were funny or interesting. Even doing something mundane like taking a shit at the same time on call was funny and made us bond closer together. But we did call too much though and it did feel suffocating. I allowed him to be there when I wanted to be alone, cause I was comfortable with it and told him about that and he did say he did like my company too so we did have lots of calls where we barely talked, but enjoyed each other's company. Now whenever I talked about my problems, he did care, but way too much making it seem like I can't live in my own house. Like I was a slave or doormat and I keep telling him I am fine and it's normal in my household to like make fun of each other. At one point, he told me to choose between him and his family. I simply told him, if he was there, I would of pick him, but I have to choose family cause there is no way I can even afford a trip to him at that point in time and don't want to just walk out the house like he wanted me to do. I told him everything, but instead of support, he ended up resenting me for not making a fast and quick change. I can change myself, but not other people. He rarely ever talked about his problems and was so angry and tired all the time and hard to talk too. I tried my best to let him know I did care about him and support him and make him feel better, which I was successful sometimes, but then a moment later he would switch it over to me and talk about my problems again which makes him mad and me upset. We had fights, resolved them, continued on, he then ended up hurting me badly and I couldn't take it anymore, I snapped and it ended horribly. Bad thing was I knew we wouldn't make it 3 months in, but I stayed cause I really did love him and wanted it to turn into something more special. Yeah, communication is key, but don't put high expectations on your partner. Make sure you give them space and be there when you need them and never, ever hate them for their mistakes. Even if they make a lot, they are still trying to find a solution, but you do gotta get on them sometimes if you notice they aren't doing anything at all. Also, be careful who you fall in love with. Never force change onto someone and don't hate them for it not changing or changing fast enough. There's a thing called moving on, they are not your investment, but a real human being. Also never pity your lover or it will end badly. Be there for them and the both of you should open definitely open up and never judge each other, but accept who they are.

azure, as someone whos been in a long distance relationship for 9 years, from 11 to 20 (roughly) i can say communication is most important, its the root that leads to solving other problems immaturity wont work for ANY relationship, and communication, openness and honesty *is* maturity and not to mention the fact that people *can* be mature, but still wont speak up about how they feel relationships are a team effort, and if someone isnt being open on how they feel then the team cant function properly to tell them your lonely, unhappy, or unsatisfied is what helps prevent cheating but id like to stress the importance of meeting irl aswell, as people can act different online than how they are in person

online relationships are a fuck ton of work, and usually dont pay off in the end its sad but thats how it works i know i for one am never stepping into one again >w>

Momoichi, I still disagree. Communication and the ability to communicate in a "relationship" is absolutely one of the most important factors to staying together, as is accepting that person. Its a prerequisite to be able to work with your partner. But in a "long-distance relationship", you have to be able to financially support yourself, have enough responsibility, and willpower to a point where you can push your relationship forward by meeting them. You can't stay with someone you can't even meet. Absolutely, communication, openness, and honesty are all signs of maturity as a person and essential for a relationship, but not everyone will stay loyal over time, ESPECIALLY in a long-distance relationship. How could someone be loyal to another person they can't even meet when they find someone close to them that also have chemistry with? "to tell them your lonely, unhappy, or unsatisfied is what helps prevent cheating" Well, the more lonely a person is, the more attached a person is, and the more they cling to you as things are starting out. But that wouldn't really help prevent cheating at all. Hell, even if you said you'd be there for them, always help them, and make them happy....the best way to prevent cheating in long-distance relationships, is to either stop the relationship or move to the person and rid it of being long-distance....there's nothing you can do to help prevent cheating in a long-distance relationship other than hope you and the other person have an absurd amount of loyalty and patience. But not everyone has such traits in these in such an absurd amount. "but id like to stress the importance of meeting irl aswell, as people can act different online than how they are in person" Hell, even then, the only way you can test a person's character is to live with them for a year or two. Sure, its a long time, but while a lot of people do act differently online than in real life, its as people settle down and get comfortable past the lovey-dovey stuff that they'll show you who they really are. But its just as you said...online relationships are a fuckton of work and typically don't work out And here I was thinking I could possibly use this gif if you and Max got together https://cdn.meme.am/instances/75719438/when-you-ship-two-people-and-it-actually-works-out.jpg

@Lamby/momoichi/goshujin-sama. Honestly now that you mention it, that's exactly why the few online relationships I've had failed. They definitely felt onesided in terms of communication most of the time, it seemed like I was the only one being open and trying to fix things most of the time. It sucked. :u

same gun ;w; for me it felt very one sided aswell xD like i was the only one really trying to make things work right azure, i guess personally in mine it was the lies and deception that was the biggest issue, so for my communication is a must first and foremost but everyone has different priorities i suppose :P edit: maximus is a million years out of my league >w>

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