how many partners can somebody have??

dating multiple people is what dating is for especially if ur interested in many people its how u find exactly what u want and like for urself and in others u keep around u when u commit to someone is when u should commit to that one person

That’s a good point, dating and being in a committed relationship(s) can be two very different things. Honestly, I think so long as everyone communicates and are clear with expectations, then you wouldn’t have a lot of drama no matter how many people are involved in a relationship with each other. Personally, I don’t see what the problem is so long as everyone involved is clear on what they want out of their relationship(s) and are clear about that to the others. If it makes you happy and doesn’t hurt others then it’s no business of mine to judge you for it

Im Strange af, I'll give a different answer then most. I think a 3 person relationship makes sense as long as no party sees themselves as the primary. What i mean by that is say you have a Gf and a Bf as long as you all are fine with eachother and also want to date eachother I think it actually solves allot of relationship issues in this day and age. It's easier for 3 people to support eachother then 2, it allows you more opportunity for free time if you have kids (as long as you take turns and it isn't excluding someone). If 3 People Love eachother it could work if 1 person loves 2 people it can't. This is all in theory and using logic NOT SOMETHING I'VE TRIED OR PLAN TO.

When it comes to scientific balance, 3 legs on something like a table or a chair is the best way to balance an object without it rocking. Unfortunately we're not tables and can't take our complex feelings out of the problem. The ideal from a 2 person relationship is that when 1 to 1 problems arise, there's no 3rd person fallback, so you have to fix your problem with that other person, split off, or deal with it. Rather than being stable, it's designed to fail, and it's designed to make you fix it after it fails, promoting overall growth in the relationship (hopefully). When a 3rd person enters the relationship it promotes procrastination. When you have a problem with your first SO, then you simply bounce onto the 2nd and vent to them. When you have problems with the 2nd, you bounce back to the first and vent more. Eventually the issues will compound until the relationships become intolerable, and two of the three will kick out the third, in favor of fixing those problems in a 1 to 1 relationship, on the basis of whoever had the most amount of problematic ties being kicked out. Either that, or the three will split off completely and start over. It could probably happen to someone, though. If all three feel mutual love and respect, and don't hide their problems from each other, then it could probably work. I think there's an extremely slim chance of that actually happening, though.

@shinu If I may interject. There also exists the possibility in your 3 legs theory that if we have persons A B and C then when a problem exists between A and B that C could act as mediator and arbitrator to the two. He/she could offer opinion and perspective that the other either hadn't considered or didn't believe until it was reinforced by someone who cared about both parties. Your assumption relies on a fault of character. The kind of person who runs away from their problems would do so no matter how many people they were in a relationship with. A knife can't stab on it's own after all. I know that you brought up that the 3 person CAN work but you're treating 2 person relationship like muscle growth, getting stronger from repairs. But having no fallback doesn't help. Being the kind of person who can admit when they're wrong, not resort to insults, and seeking to understand as well being understood....that is what makes a relationship work and establishes a deep connection.

If there's no sex involved... Aren't you basically just being a very flirty friend to 5 guys? The second they got real girlfriends, you'd be booted to the curb. Isn't there a proverb about trying for too many at once and ending up with none. It's better to choose one, then end up with none.

My assumption that people are inherently going to argue relies on the counter assumption that deep love looks past minor mistakes and works not to make large mistakes. Deep love is almost assuredly going to prioritize a single person, rather than 2, and so it doesn't work for this context. I assume that people are not going to work out their problems when they have a fallback, because I think counting on the opposite is rather idealistic. It's simply from my day to day experience with people, that most would rather postpone their problems with people, often enough indefinitely. I most often see the opposite of this when it comes to married people, likely because they're forced to deal with each other every day, and of course also because they love them and don't want to talk behind their back. And yeah I am likening it to muscle growth, but it's not a 1:1 comparison. Moving past conflict makes you stronger as a couple, but of course it's better to not have conflict at all. On the other hand, avoiding conflict isn't the same as not having conflict, at least not in this context. When there are underlying issues then avoiding them is going to make it worse. I just don't think people should assume they're going to live conflict free lives.

SECOND FRIGGEN EDIT BC YALL CRAZY: im not talking about making a group of boys to serenade me or whatever the frick im talking about being in an OPEN RELATIONSHIP ???? do any of yall know what the fuq that is bc it seems NOT yall got super dirty shit on your minds so just calm the poop down OKKKKKK ???? im not talking about making a threesome or an orgy or any of that shiz ok